Most high achievers aren’t limited by a lack of talent or lack of opportunity. They’re limited by the tension they carry inside their own nervous systems.
This low-grade tension drains your energy and leads to burn out, it flattens your relationships and leads to heartbreak, it blurs your decision-making and leads to humiliation.… READ MORE
Most people who listen to this show don’t think of themselves as “high achievers.”
They think of themselves as people who should be further ahead by now.
They’ve lived with low-grade panic for so long, they don’t notice it anymore.… READ MORE
Most people try to grow by adding more tactics.
New habits.
New hacks.
New systems.
But if you’re like many professionals, you’ve already done all that.
You’ve pushed.
You’ve optimized.
You’ve carried the weight.… READ MORE
Some children grow up in war zones, sleeping in shelters, surrounded by danger.
Others grow up in mansions with trust funds.
Yet the research is clear:
The first group often becomes more grounded, courageous, and emotionally stable…
while the second group can grow into anxious, brittle adults who look successful but feel empty inside.… READ MORE
It’s easy to look at some of the biggest villains in history (both real and fictional) and assume that they were evil incarnate. It’s easy because it frees you from the burden that you could become just like them.… READ MORE
Most people say they support sexual freedom. But when a woman—or man—actually lives it… they turn on them. Judgment. Outrage. Moral panic.
So here’s the real question: “Can you be sexually free and morally good?” And if you can, why does it trigger so much shame in others?… READ MORE
Ambitious people fall into a trap: You’ve learned from a young age that achievement means love, and so, you chase achievement and other external markers of success only to realize the gnawing void is still there.… READ MORE
Most people spend their lives performing.
Pretending to be who they think they should be — polished, composed, and never too much.
But underneath, they feel like frauds.
Because the parts of themselves they’ve hidden — the anger, the neediness, the shame — are still alive, whispering, “If they really knew you, they’d leave.”
That’s why being yourself feels unsafe.… READ MORE
There is a seductive and destructive lie many people fall into: Learn the best tricks and gimmicks and you can have complete control over your relationships – romantic and business.
It’s so seductive because it promises control and success, but it’s even more destructive because it delivers fear instead of control and breeds insecurity instead of success.… READ MORE
In pickup artist culture, men see women’s natural defenses as tests and shields. Pass these “shit tests” and break through her “bitch shields,” and you win her love and affection.
But women aren’t sitting around scheming elaborate tests or plotting shields.… READ MORE
