There are 3 distinct levels to personal development and self-improvement. And most high achievers get trapped forever in Level 2—never fully healing or integrating with their internal world because they’re stuck trying to conquer it.… READ MORE
There are certain emotional scripts you learned in your formative years that are running your life today. These emotional patterns aren’t the enemy. They don’t mean that you’re broken as a person or flawed in an insidious way.… READ MORE
Most people, and high achievers in particular, suffer from a paradoxical problem:
Trying too hard backfires and causes your deepest, darkest fears to realize. When high achievers are confronted with a problem in their personal or professional life, their first instinct is to push harder, work longer, go on more dates.… READ MORE
Most high achievers have been sold a lie: that Chaos is a threat that will take everything from you, and the only way to handle it is with more control.
But if you look into any high achiever’s life, relationships, or business, you’ll see a similar through line: They’re quietly miserable no matter how much material success they’ve accumulated.… READ MORE
If you wanted to grow bigger muscles, you could read all the strength training books you wanted. But until you go to the gym and apply your knowledge to your body, your muscles will never grow.
That’s the same way the muscle of connection works.… READ MORE
Most people who struggle with connection chalk it up to a personality trait. They think their personality, which benefits them in other areas, just makes connection harder for them.
But this is actually a defense mechanism in disguise, created by a protective part of you that was created by an old wound.… READ MORE
Successful high achievers think they can always rely on themselves more than on other people. This idea helped fuel their success.
But it’s also why their success isn’t fulfilling, and why they feel on the verge of burnout.… READ MORE
If you’re a high achiever, you probably have a tendency to prioritize work above all else. Results are the most important thing to you. And all the other stuff—like deep relationships that offer true connection—are treated as “nice to haves.”
But this is perhaps the biggest tragedy a high achiever could face.… READ MORE
Most people chalk up their attraction problems to external sources: Maybe they think they need better strategies and skills. Or they believe that dating apps are against them. Or maybe it’s just that they’re unlucky.… READ MORE
As a former player myself, I know first-hand how crushing the “Grandiosity-Shame Cycle” is. Almost all players fall into this psychological trap that only leads to rage, doubt, depression, and despair.… READ MORE
