High achievers have a dangerous tendency to equate effort and responsibility. But effort and responsibility are not the same thing.
In fact, in most cases, high effort coexists with low responsibility because effort is a shield that protects you from the exposure of responsibility.… READ MORE
When the rest of your life is flat, dating and attraction can end up supplying the intensity you’re missing.
When your career growth slows, when challenge turns into routine, when your life is in maintenance mode, attraction can take on much more importance in your life than it should.… READ MORE
Success isn’t built by willpower alone. It’s built by inner engines.
Fear that kept you sharp. Hunger that kept you moving. A need to prove yourself that refused to let you coast. A nervous system that could handle pressure without collapsing.… READ MORE
Success and achievement aren’t just some kind of psychological trick or a shallow distraction. They’re actually a way to make sense of the uncertainty of life, narrow your options of choices, and shape distracted energy into focused action.… READ MORE
There are several costs you’re forced to pay when you treat moral value as optional.
First, it tricks you into commoditizing yourself. Relationships become shallow and transaction-based. Fulfillment disappears.… READ MORE
Hello Listeners –
I’m taking the podcast back to its roots as an audio-only, more improvisational show after experimenting with tightly scripted video episodes on YouTube. The new (old) format gives me more freedom to think out loud, follow ideas where they go, and focus on depth and voice over visuals.… READ MORE
Most smart people reach for values when they’re under a lot of pressure or stress.
It feels responsible. Grounded. Mature.
But under pressure, values often do the opposite of what they’re meant to do.… READ MORE
Relativism has a seductive force behind it. It offers you short-term relief for your problems – internally, relationally, and professionally. And the worst part is that it works. For a while anyway.… READ MORE
A tragedy occurs when you reach a certain level of achievement: The mind starts to reorder itself for destruction instead of growth.
Worst part?
This happens so subtly that it goes completely unnoticed… until it’s too late.… READ MORE
There’s a pattern that’s so ingrained in the human psyche that Ancient Daoism noticed it long before psychology had language for cognition. It’s a pattern that sneaks up on almost every high achiever who tastes enough success.… READ MORE
