Hi there. I'm Jill Allen and this is find your fierce, the show designed for women to discover your fierce, unlock and unstoppable mindset. Build unbreakable courage and completely transform how you show up every single day. Each week I will bring ideas, methods and strategies that will inspire you to step into your greatness and live life on purpose. Let's be fit, fierce and unstoppable.
(00:34): Hey there, gang. Welcome to find your fear so glad you are here. Today's chat. We are continuing the series called strength in hard places. And I love where this journey is taking us as I am still pretty fired up about it, because like I mentioned, the last few weeks, we, I talked with so many and y'all feel like you're on this roller coaster ride filled with all these ups and downs and twists and turns. And instead of moving forward with peace and purpose, our lives spin out of control. Life is hard, and we find ourselves in some hard places where the chaos and the uncertainty threatened us to make us feel helpless. So we are going to discover what to do about it. We are flipping the script that our problems do not define us, but they actually refine us. But before going any further today, I have to say that I love that you're here with me listening in and spending time here this morning, or this afternoon or whatever you guys have going on today.
(01:27): So honored that I get to be a part of your day and that you get to be a part of mine is just, I love it that we get to spend this time together. And so you are also amazing. I have to thank you for your love and support as always. I appreciate your feedback, your reviews, and love that you share this podcast and the set free message with your friends and family. So if you can keep on doing that, that would be amazing because you are helping this movement as it helps reach more women and it impacts more lives. And that is certainly what life is all about. So thank you again for being with us here today, but let's rewind first. Okay. Before we dive in, we talked about how problems are opportunities that we need to find that clarity. And we talk about perspective and the changing of our mind and the way we see things.
(02:11): And then this week it's about purpose. And I got to tell you before, like anything else above all else that you are one of a kind, I'm not sure if you guys have heard that in a while or not. If you've ever heard of it, or if you, if you believe it, that you are so precious, you have infinite worth, you are honored, you are loved and you were born with a big old purpose. And now that we got that out of the way, and we are on the same page here, know that your purpose is going to be formed under pressure. The hard times, the difficult times, the challenges, you know, we can add value anytime we choose, as long as we can live on purpose with purpose. And so I know you're probably asking like, how do we do that? Okay, well, to start to believe that purpose is the why for you being alive.
(03:03): It's what sets you apart, what differentiates you from everyone else? And once you find that, why then the what and the how and the when, well, I'll take care of themselves, because it's going to empower you to act, to move, to accomplish your goals, to make wise choices and clearly discern what you say no to and what you will allow in your life, what you will say yes. To, with all the energy, with more energy, with more conviction. And it's like, I like to think of it as a springboard that actually propels you forward and the momentum that you're going to need to keep going. Now through that journey. Let me warn you. If you haven't already figured it out yet, or even experienced it, that there may be a time where you will feel, or you will be rejected and experienced the pain that comes along with it.
(03:54): And it's not a good feeling. It's not, it's not something that we want to stay stuck in, or just marinate in that feeling. It's not a good thing. And you guys, you guys all probably know Sylvester, Stallone. I, I love him. I love all his Rocky movies. I just I just love him. And he wants said that he takes rejection as someone blowing a bugle into his ear to wake him up and get going. I love that. Like that is a massive flip the script right there. Let me repeat what he had once said. He said that he takes rejection as someone blowing a bugle in his ear to wake him up and get going. So I encourage you to like flip that script as well. I encourage you to try a different approach when met with rejection or pushback. Think of it as a divine course corrector that we can accept rejection gratefully we can use, or look at rejection as a tool for growth.
(04:58): And it's going to take some tough skin to do so. Right? When we, when, when, when to keep going, can, when to keep doing what you are doing, regardless of what others say. But it goes back to that, that strength of the purpose, your God, given why that is rooted in your identity, knowing who you are in Christ and who God called you to be because rejection is real, especially when connection with others is what makes life so meaningful and beautiful just to be loved, to be surrounded by other people. I mean, we, we love to be accepted by people. It's human nature and to be rejected by those that we love or who are close to us or our family or friends or community to be talked about behind your back, or to be shut down. I just want you to know that above all.
(05:45): We need to get acquainted to what God has said about, you know, what he has put into you and who, or what his plan is for your life. That is critical in keeping your dreams alive. You know, just don't spend your time fretting over what people are saying. Now, with that being said, you know, I want us to still be open to constructive criticism and take personal responsibility, especially when others speak in love and what they can say, be, can be so helpful in our growth. And just so I encourage you to keep your hearts open for that. But to really overcome that rejection piece, we must believe in ourselves. You must believe in yourself, no one ever does anything worthwhile without meeting some kind of opposition in the process. So I encourage you not to dumb yourself down or kiss up or people please, you know, to voice it.
(06:34): I mean, refuse to blend in, you know, at the cost of who you are and believe what God is able to do in and through you just tune all that junk out all the naysayers out. As there's always going to be people who say your ideas are crazy, or that you know, that won't work or whatever you're believing in. They're saying there's no way or that you're not good enough. And when that happens, I want you to go back to number one. And number one is what does God say about you? That's first and foremost. And I, I always love reading up on these testimonies and I'm sure you have heard many of these, but since it's so much fun, let's go through them again. All the history makers that have faced the massive rejection. Let me bring this up because I have this list and it's so good.
(07:20): I have it marked here, actually. Okay. Think about Albert Einstein. He was considered an unteachable full by his early teachers. Michael Jordan was cut from his high school basketball team. Beethoven's music teacher told him he was a hopeless composer. Oh, Colonel Sanders, the creator of Kentucky fried chicken. He was told no by over a thousand restaurants for more than a year, while he lived in his car, trying to sell his chicken recipe. Thomas Edison was four. He was sent home from school with a note. And the note told his mother that she was to remove her son from school because he was too stupid to learn. What about Walt Disney? He was turned down by over a hundred banks when he tried to get funding to develop Disneyland. And he was also fired from his job at a newspaper for lacking ideas. Let's see Vince Lombardi was told by an expert that he possesses minimal football knowledge.
(08:12): He lacks motivation. What about Fred Astaire? He kept a memo over his fireplace from an MGM testing director after his first screen test that said, can't act slightly bald and can dance a little guys. I'm telling you what, just hearing all of those things. It's like, wow. Talk about overcoming. I want you to live your life out loud. Never be bullied. If, if anything, these people have inspired or should inspire each and every one of us that we should never be bullied into silence or allow ourselves to be made a victim of someone else's insecurities. You know, we don't have to accept anyone's proclamations or predictions of all the doom and gloom and failure that they speak over us and your decision to be, to have, and to do things out of the ordinary will demand that you face difficulties and hard times that are out of the ordinary.
(09:03): Does that make sense? I mean, if you were to do something great, it takes courage, courage to stand strong in spite of failure, opposition ridicule. And I'm speaking to myself on this one. I mean, it takes courage to stand up for what is right to go against the odds to resist temptations, to compromise your morals in exchange for acceptance. I mean, how many times have you guys have done that? I know. I think, I think we've all been guilty of it just now that we can become aware of what it is that we're doing and we don't have to do it anymore. You know, I'm like, I'm thinking that the courage is like swimming against the current for us to go out on a limb when, you know, versus playing it safe. I mean, it seems responsible or the easier way to go, just to kind of sit back and settle.
(09:50): There's no risk in that. There's no overcoming fear, but we have to overcome the fear as the victory has already been won. I mean, the word states, you have already won a victory because the spirit who lives in you is greater than the spirit who lives in the world. So many people dwindle away, they settle, they die, like just carrying seeds of greatness, unrealized, potential, undiscovered breakthroughs, and undelivered solutions because of fear. So let's get fired up and let's face those fears today. Start like right now, is it fear of people, fear of being alone, fear of rejection, fear of failure. Is it fear of change or fear of commitment? The key here is not to avoid your fear or feel afraid, but to embrace the fear and proceed anyway, you know, we can, we can not just give our personal power away to situations.
(10:42): We can't just give her power away to circumstances and people. How many times did God say in the Bible, be not afraid, face those giants, that it will take courage and fear to overcome to start over after you failed or to create a new life for you and your family to move from the familiar to the unfamiliar, to ask for a raise, maybe you're resisting some peer pressure right now, courage to obey God, you know, to be yourself, to live for God in this anti-God world to break away from the status quo, maybe it's to bridge a gap, to set new and clear boundaries to say, no, maybe it's to say yes, maybe it's to say, you're sorry. Or to start a business courage to go back to school. Courage to love again, trust again, Cruz to believe again, whatever God has placed in your spirit to do or to become, please take courage and do it become it.
(11:36): Face your fear and proceed. In spite of opposition, I feel it so strongly. You are immensely powerful. You are a valuable human being. You are a divine masterpiece. We want to talk about purpose. This is what it's all about. You are unique and you are important. And I don't want anyone else to tell you any different that you're unlike anyone who has ever lived or ever will live after you're gone. I mean, you are the only one qualified to be. You think about that, given all these facts, when do you have time to do anything else, but what you've been wired to do, when do you have time to worry about what others think of you or fret about difficulties that life sets in your path? It's time to live, like the miracle that you are, God did not place you on this earth to be beaten down by problems or any circumstances or defeated by difficulties.
(12:25): I mean, you are on an action packed adventure. That is so, so good that only God could put you on. So lift yourself up, dust yourself off and get on with business of being who you were created to be. I think I'll, I'll wrap that up today with that. How about that? I hope you're fired up. I know I am. I might have to go listen to this again because I think it's so good, but there's lots of to reflect on this week. So I'm just so glad that we get to be a part of each other's day and we'll go from there. But I tell you what, if you have not gotten snagged a copy of my book set free, please do. So it's a woman's guide to freedom from confusion, control, worry, fear, and stress by letting go and saying yes to God's endless love.
(13:06): So if you're looking to find that peace and the calm in the middle of chaos, if you're looking to find your own personal freedom through Jesus, or if you're looking for a way out, anyone who has any kind of struggle, whether it's physical, emotional, or spiritual guys, this book, this message that God shared with me is to give you hope and healing. And if you're looking for more, follow me at Joe Allen on Instagram or join, or just free Facebook group and keep up-to-date and all the upcoming retreats at Joe Allen, coaching.com heads up on the next episode, we are going to continue to strengthen hard places and talk about the power of perseverance. So be sure to come back and listen in. Thanks so much for joining us today. Please subscribe, share this episode, link on your social media. If you felt encouraged or inspired, as we all know, someone that can benefit. And I would love it. If you would give some feedback and a review as well to you the next time, [inaudible] the unstoppable
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