Hi there, I'm Jill Allen. And this is find your fierce, the show designed for women to discover your fierce, unlock an unstoppable mindset. Build unbreakable courage, and completely transform how you show up every single day. Each week I will bring ideas, methods, and strategies that will inspire you to step into your greatness and live life on purpose. Let's be fit, fierce and unstoppable.
00:32 what's up everyone? How are you? We are going to talk about excuses today and I'm excited about that. Are you an excuse-aholic? And I want to ask you, why do we put things off until the last minute, especially the things that matter most to us. I think about recording the first podcast, I think back to that and I kept putting it off, I mean actually for a couple of years and finally there was a day that I was like, this is the day that I'm going to record, you know, and I kept putting it off. I was stalling. I was coming up with these reasons of why it wasn't getting done and I kept pushing off until the next day. And then the next day and the day that I said I was going to record the first show, I found myself cleaning the fridge, scrubbing down light fixtures and I actually cleaned out the silverware drawer. Talk about crazy. But that is exactly what I was doing.
01:24 I was procrastinating. I, you know, think about when it comes to working out or starting a healthy lifestyle change, it gets pushed off again and again and again. It probably gets pushed off to every single Monday. So I know obviously we're not alone in this boat, but that doesn't mean we don't need to make those changes. Okay? Because here's the thing, there is a difference between procrastination and thriving under pressure and then dropping the ball and not following through. So are you guys always late? Do you avoid responding to an important issue or deadline? Do you break promises to you or the people in your life? Do you follow through on your commitments? So let's be real here it is our excuses that come along with us dropping the ball. It is our excuses that hold us back. Whether it's returning that phone call, responding to an email, working out, putting in for that promotion, or I don't know, starting your own business, whatever else you have been putting off this past week or month or years.
02:32 Our excuses prevent us from getting us to where we want to be. So why do we procrastinate or put things off and we come up with all these excuses we can totally justify. Why do we do that? Is it that you don't truly believe in myself included? I'm talking to myself here. Is it that we don't truly believe that we're worthy of our dreams, worthy of our hoax, worthy of our desires? Because you gotta believe you can crush whatever it is that you want to crush before it gets accomplished. So if we listened to that self doubt, trust me, that is going to generate a whole entire list of excuses and making excuses instead of getting it done. What does it lead to? Leads to a life of mediocrity and regret. And you don't deserve that. No one does. But to stop the excuses, it's going to take you, me, all of us being fierce.
03:33 You being hardcore, you showing up every day because the cost of procrastination, the cost of idleness, the cost of our excuses are real. They're expensive, and they're going to prevent us from reaching our fullest potential. And that is what we're going to talk about today. Excuses. Are you an excuse a holic? So number one, we need to identify your excuses. Identify your go to ones your go to excuses. The ones we like to use, like we're busy. We don't have any money, we don't have any time. Think about all your I can'ts the I am too tired. The too exhausted, the too stressed. I'm overwhelmed tomorrow, right? It's going to be better for me. Basically, you don't want to deal with it. Type of excuses. What are they? Okay, are you getting me here? Are you an excuse a holic? What are you? How are you answering this?
04:28 I want you to spend this week scribbling down. You know your excuses. Figure out the ones that keeps showing up. Keep popping up and think about the real reasons you make them. I bet it's going to be humbling to see just how many times we make some pretty pathetic excuses to avoid people, situations, the commitments and the responsibilities that we have. And then the next week, let's, every time something comes up that we're faced with and if it's your first response is in your top five GoTo excuses, you can't use it. And I bet I guarantee you will be so much more productive, more than ever before in your life. So we're going to identify those and then we're not going to be allowed to use them. And I think we're going to see our productivity level go through the roof. I'm excited too. Take ownership. Oh no.
05:26 Do you guys know Andy Andrews? I love him. I love all his books. He said the life you are currently living is a result of the choices you have made. So we can all blame on, you know, all of that we want, but it's actually going to be how we respond. Taking ownership is like removing all of our excuses. You know, I know we've all had heard stories, you know, before I know I've been guilty of it, of the fact that if we don't take responsibility for our actions or inactions and then we blame others for our right someone or something else is always the cause of failure. And I know we've all been guilty of that in our house raising five kids, we've all heard the teacher, the coach or my friend and we, and then it's like that. But right. We call this the victim mindset in our house.
06:14 And then when we have one, we actually pay a hefty price. Here's the thing, as a victim, we allow our success to be limited by our external circumstances, people or events. But if we take accountability, if we take personal ownership, if we take personal responsibility, it actually allows us to gain control of our life. We get to start to shape our destiny and actually fulfill our potential. So when we get to shift that blame, it actually goes from blaming our past to learning from our failures. And it's just part of the journey. Like it fires me up that our past can actually fuel us. Okay? It's easy to create excuses or reason why we are not taking action when obstacles, roadblocks, and barriers appear. But if we resolve never to be a victim again to stop feeling sorry for ourselves, to be willing to take different actions and to let go of those GoTo excuses and let those excuses fuel us.
07:22 Game on. Okay, get fired up because your life, you're going to move the ball. You're going to move forward. Number three, and I know I could probably make a list of 10 here, but to narrow it down to three, I actually put four is to be honest and trust yourself because sometimes we make excuses because we lack the confidence. So maybe moving to a new city, starting a new workout plan, eating healthy for life, applying for that, doing job, we have to believe we can do it before we can drown out all those convenient reasons. We can't. So I'll have to do an episode on self-belief here soon, but we gotta have the guts to go for it. Or your excuses will justify why you are settling for a life of mediocrity. Trust yourself. And when you feel intimidated or has self doubt creeps in or you start to question your goals, take a moment, reassess.
08:18 Do you still want it? And if what you are doing and how you are doing, it aligns with what you want. I want to quickly add in here too, we have to be honest with ourselves and the other people in our life versus making up an excuse just to appease or to avoid hurting someone's feelings. Just be upfront. You know, I forgot I lost track of time. It's not a priority or maybe my plate is full. Not being honest is only going to make it worse. Not to mention make you seem flaky, untrustworthy, both. It's not. I know it is not worth risking of the relationships or your integrity. So as we are on a mission to ditch our excuses, remember to first identify your GoTo most commonly used excuses that have been holding you back from moving forward toward whatever it is you are wanting to move forward on.
09:13 So what are those excuses? And more importantly, why are we making those excuses? Which leads me to number two, falling victim to our excuses in placing blame caused us to miss out on opportunity, miss out on our best life. So taking personal ownership, being the master of our own ship, author of our life is key, and then lastly the honest and trust yourself. You have what it takes to create a life of adventure that will be only as awesome as we imagine it, but it's going to take getting rid of our excuses. I want to share with you, especially if you're wanting to ditch the excuses when it comes to your fitness and nutrition. If you have zero extra time to go to the gym, you don't have time or energy to meal plan or hate dieting. You don't want to count calories or restrict what you eat or not sure where to start, or if you want to just kick it up a notch with the support and accountability from women who get it and what it's like to juggle a crazy busy life, then head on over to be fit and fierce.com so you can be on this unstoppable journey with us.
10:19 Head on over to be fit and fierce.com now, heads up on the next episode. We are discussing the vicious weight loss cycle. Okay. Can you relate? If you are ready to break the cycle for good, be sure to plug in. Thanks so much for joining me today. Please subscribe. Share this episode, link on your social media as we all know, someone that can benefit and I would love, love, love it if you would give me some feedback and a review as well. Talk with you next time. Be fit, be fierce, be unstoppable. See ya.
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