Hi there. I'm Jill Allen. And this is find Your fierce, the show designed for women to discover your fierce unlock, an unstoppable mindset, build unbreakable courage, and completely transform how you show up every single day. Each week. I will bring ideas, methods, and strategies that will inspire you to step into your greatness and live life on purpose. Let's be fit, fierce and unstoppable.
(00:35): Hey there, gang. Welcome to find your fears so glad that you were here with me as we dive into a brand new episode, as always, I'm super excited about these next few minutes of our day, because this just may be the fire that you are needing to take a deep look into ourselves and discover what it is really like to hang out with you. And it might be tough for some of us to come to grips of all that we will discover today. But before we go any further, I have to ask, are you needing a speaker for an upcoming event or conference? If so, I am your person. I would love to bring the, find your fierce message to your next function. So to book your event, message me at Joe at Joe Allen, coaching.com. And I just love that you are here listening in and spending time with me.
(01:15): So honored that I get to be a part of your day. You're just also amazing. And I thank you for your love and support, and I appreciate your feedback, your reviews, and I love that you shared this podcast and the set free message with your friends and family. So if you could keep on doing that, that would be incredible because you are helping this movement as it helps reach more women and it impacts more lives. And that is certainly what life is all about. So thank you again. Okay. Are you ready? Let's dive in. I remember, uh, this question being asked, it was a while back at a leadership convention and when it was asked, it actually stopped me in my tracks a question. I was not sure I was bold enough to really ask others at that time, but even just asking myself had been super revealing.
(01:59): And so I'm gonna ask you the same question that just may put a spin on your whole world today. Okay. So I want you to ask, what is it like to be around me now? I'm not talking about me, me, but like you guys ask that yourself, what's it like to be around yourself? Or what's it like to be around me? And if you think about it, we really don't know what it's like to be around ourselves. Although there was a time that I remember, uh, I, I was so anxiety filled that I actually let it slip to my husband. And I was saying, I hate the peoples. I've become as if I had like so many different personalities. And I was just bouncing from one thing to the next. And I was just really on edge. And I was just so anxious. And it was because I was struggling with myself so much that I didn't even want to be around me.
(02:50): Have you ever felt that way? I bet you can. I think there are so many women that are out there relating to this. Uh, but usually in an everyday world, you've probably never sat in a car having to listen to you. You've never been on the other end of the phone with you. You've never been married to you. You've never been parented by you. You've never had to work with you. So which one are you when I ask you a couple of these questions, really take a moment and pause and reflect and let's, let's be real. Let's have a heart that is willing to be open so that we can kind of dive in and flip the script. Are you the one that retells the same sad stories to be pitiful and to play victim? Are you the one that excludes yourself from every crowd and then wonder why you don't fit in?
(03:38): Are you the one that overruns every conversation and makes it all about you? Are you the one that shrinks back or plays little and contributes? Nothing. Are you the one that continually talks bad about others to make yourself look just a little bit better? Are you the one that has seven different moods and six of them make everyone wanna hide? Are you the one that has to control everything and always be right? Are you the one that always overshare really? What's it like to be around you? You don't see, or we don't see as clearly as others see us. And I bet if you ask your husband, he could tell you which one you are and you might fight about it the rest of the day. And right now, some of you are listening to this and someone you're thinking, oh my gosh, I hope they realize which one they are because I don't wanna be the one to tell them.
(04:27): Or maybe right now, you're already considering who you could share this episode with because they are the one. But have you ever stopped and thought that maybe you're the one, the one who thinks everyone else needs to be fixed, that you are the one walking around with a plank in your own eye, trying to pick at someone else's splinter. What's it like to be around you? Remember this is about you in this moment. Not about anyone else. Let's be real. Let's be transparent. Let's be honest with ourselves. I was talking to my friend . I was talking to my friend on the phone, uh, the other day. And I told him what I was putting together for this episode. And he asked if we had ever played the game where we put all our names in a hat. And then the name that we draw was the person we had to act like.
(05:11): I guess he did this with his family a couple years ago. And, um, he said the first clue to realize that you may be a hot mess as if everybody wants to be you and that we better have thick skin. And so when I asked Rob, I go, do you wanna play this game? Like, should we do this? And Rob started chuckling. And he told me that I better not wanna play that game because he feels the kids would be relentless if they drew my name, um, as their mom. And so that gave me some time to actually pause and reflect about how I show up each and every day. So what's it like to be around me? I mean, that question makes me cringe. Which 1:00 AM I? Is that who I wanna be? And even more importantly is that who I was created to be.
(06:00): And maybe you're like me and you're currently blessed with health and there's nothing horribly wrong. And you wake up feeling great and you wake up well, and you have no known immediate threats to your life. But what if we're sick? What if we have an infection within, that has us crippled from within causing us to show up as a lesser than version of who we could ultimately be? What if we have become that girl? And we don't even realize it that we're not, well, it may be time for a wake up call. It may be time to meet your healer. And I know when we think about healing, like we think that maybe Jesus only came to restore sight to the blind and, and make the lane to walk. And you think he didn't come for bad attitudes, bad broken stories on repeat bad habits.
(06:47): The truth is he actually wants to heal you of the very things causing you to be any less of the crazy good and amazing creation you can be. That's absolutely amazing when we flip that script, but there's one thing blocking us from that healing. And what is it? I know we've talked about, uh, in prior episodes about the familiar story of Jesus healing, a paralyzed man who had been laying at a pool of water for 38 years. And in John five, six, it says when Jesus saw him lying there and learned that he had been in this condition for a long time, he asked him, do you wanna get well? And maybe you've been walking through the majority of your adult years, just thinking maybe a bad mood is your natural state, or maybe you've been negative for so long. You think that's the way that you're wired as if God just wanted you to be a cranky and always complaining type of gal.
(07:37): Maybe you're so used to playing pitiful. And, and you think that's the only way that you'll ever get attention, or the only thing you could possibly have to talk about, maybe you're so in need of accolades and praises, that everything becomes a competition that you have to win. And then Jesus walks right up to you this morning and speaks tough love and asks you, do you wanna get, well, do you wanna flip the script? You've been doing this for a long time. Maybe you think that's just the way that you are and the way that you will always be. But the truth is it is a choice that you're continually making that doesn't align with who God created you to be. Do you wanna get well for real? Do you wanna do this thing differently? Do you wanna no longer be the one that always does that?
(08:24): And if you wanna get well, that first means you recognize something within you as not working. And maybe it's your attitude. That's not working. Maybe it's your approach. Maybe it's your perspective. Maybe it's just what you've always done. But now you see what you've always done. Isn't really working. And you would like to stop being the one that does that. So right here, right now, we say, I wanna get, well, I want to flip the script. I wanna change my heart posture. I wanna live differently. I wanna let like, let's do this thing. Now understand this process. This is the tough part, recognizing it is one thing. But understand that the process of flipping the script is going to likely look like you're just going about your day, doing what you've always done and suddenly realizing that you're doing it again. And we fall back into that old habit.
(09:12): You know, it, that thing you don't wanna do anymore. And in that moment of awareness, God will empower you to choose to change it. You will recognize your ability to stop complaining, stop nagging, stop bragging, stop exaggerating, stop talking, stop hiding, just stop and be made. Well, just stop and change the story. Yes, this is the power of our God. And this is how it happens. God simply makes us aware of what it's like to be around ourselves. And then he gives us the ability to make a shift and change of what we've always done. And if we wanna get well, the healing begins today. It begins with an awareness, a desire, and a conscious choice to choose better and to be made. Well, man, I think this is pretty short and sweet today. A little straight talk, followed up with a lot of love and the action steps that you can choose to take today.
(10:05): Flip it. There's so much power of our choices. There's the power of free will and the power of our God. Let's get fired up. Flip the script, choose a different way. If you're wanting even more fire in your day, there is so much for you to do so. You can follow me on Instagram snag, a copy of my book, set free on Amazon, join us in the fit and fears for the flip, the script one on one nutrition coaching and the next retreat, the new drop and the new release and where we're gonna be headed is going to, uh, be announced super soon. So be sure to continuously to check back so you can join us. And if you're wanting to do our, your own road trip, you can hop in our sprinter van that sleeps up to five and hit the open road. Be sure to go to Jill Allen, coaching.com for all updates releases and join the just brief Facebook group. We would love to connect with you heads up on the next episode. I will be completely honest. I have no idea what we're talking about, but I know it's gonna be good. So be sure to pop back in next week.
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