The “Fixer Mindset” plagues every nice guy who can’t seem to even talk to an attractive lady, let alone start a relationship with her. If you continue letting this broken mindset subconsciously guide you, it can end in complete catastrophe:
Like bending over backwards for an ex who still lives with you, and starts bringing new guys into your apartment. This happens more often than you’d think.
Well, if you haven’t overcome your early childhood traumas, then you’ll subconsciously recreate this dynamic of being taken advantage of in order to earn love in every relationship you have.
Not only will this cause intense heartbreaks, but it also fills you with a deep depression that lingers on you no matter what.
That’s the bad news.
The good news?
There is hope! In fact, I used to suffer from this exact same mindset years ago.
In this episode, I break down the “Fixer Mindset” in nitty-gritty detail, including why it happens, how it happens, and how you can finally overcome it. I also reveal what happens when you don’t address it—hint: it only gets worse. And the three most important steps you can take today to finally free yourself from its destructive grasp.
- The insidious “Fixer Mindset” most men silently struggle with that makes you bend over backwards for a girl who wouldn’t do the same for you (2:10)
- 4 deadly coping behaviors you picked up as a toddler that you’re subconsciously using today that scares women away (12:08)
- Why making more money or getting a six pack won’t help you attract the ladies (even if you think it will) (15:32)
- The single biggest fundamental flaw in the human condition that sabotages your chances with girls, fills you with existential dread, and causes untold amounts of stress (15:46)
- How becoming a pickup artist can help you get girls (and why this only sets you up for humiliating heartbreak) (18:13)
- Why evolution has failed us when it comes to being emotionally stable, healthy, and happy (and how you can fix this in your life) (22:13)
- The cold, hard truth about why most people don’t end up in happy relationships (25:12)
- How neglecting your “little boy” hidden deep inside you gives you a wicked case of the addicting “Martyrdom Fantasy” which causes you to sacrifice your relationship for nothing (26:00)
- 3 simple steps to finally overcome your “Fixer Mindset” and effortlessly magnetize attractive women to you (33:43)
- Why traveling alone is the single best “antidote” to deep-seated childhood traumas (36:13)
Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 15 years, I've helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I'm therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to check out my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at https://www.davidtianphd.com/masterclass/ now.
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