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  • How hanging around your family too much can sabotage your business (even if you love speddning time with them) (7:14)
  • The only difference between the wealthiest person in your neighborhood and you (9:38)
  • Why getting marriage counseling before you’re married protects you from divorce (15:22)
  • The insidious “Be Right” trap people in relationships fall into which poisons the relationship from the inside out (17:08)
  • The “Dream Together” trick which keeps your marriage strong and growing every day (18:59)
  • How too much structure in your marriage slowly rots the excitement and love you both feel (22:55)
  • The “date every week” mindset secret for falling deeper in love with your spouse every day (24:40)
  • How to transform your biggest, most humiliating failures into lessons that generate cold, hard cash (34:30)

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Welcome to the making of a DM eight year Anniversary, Special eight things I've learned by being married for eight years to my beautiful wife D and what to do when this shit storm hits. excited for this one. So What that said, Let's get started.

(00:24): I'm more Kevin I'm Kevin. I'm to helping teach him. I know. And how freedom there. Ain. No question more. Kevin. When he's closing deals, tell him what the stands for. I'm a deal, a deal maker, but I'm not just a deal maker. I'm a dream maker. Hey, there's Your boy. Mark D damn dream making in deal, making hope. You're having an amazing day to day. As I'm sitting here in the Treehouse, got a bunch of updates to share with you as well. Eight Lessons I've learned for a great marriage over the last eight years. Yep. August 28th was D and I's eight year wedding anniversary. August 28th, eight years ago. I was on a, he pad in Malibu, California at Rocky Oaks. Something like that. this really cool 50 million state we rented out for the night, the day and night. And I got married on this. He pad, it was me Dean and her mother. It was an awesome, awesome experience. I didn't want a lot of people there on, you know, it's funny to me. I see people doing weddings and they're all stressed out, overwhelmed, going crazy. And they make it about everybody else, but themselves. Well, the wedding day is for me and for my wife, for the people I care about. And if you don't like it, I don't care. you're not invited. So, uh, that is one reason.

(02:05): Another reason is I cry like a baby and I didn't, I didn't feel like a lot of people wanna sit there and watch me cry saying I do and all that good stuff before I get started. I kind of already have. I wanna let you know, today's show there's a lot going on a lot, going on. Today's a big day, um, for many reasons. And I'll share that a lot of challenges, a lot of moving parts in life and business, as you know, and, um, I always want to talk real talk and roll talk with you as I always do, and always will. Nothing here to sell you except don't quit. The only thing I want to sell you is don't quit. No matter how shitty it is, you do not quit. It's the only way to lose. If you quit, appreciate everyone messaging me from last show, a lot of stuff going on and is transpired from there.

(02:58): But as I'm sitting here talking to you, I've got so many amazing people messaging me on social media, uh, privately on email and all that good stuff on the website. And I just wanna say, thank you so much means the world to me more than you ever know. I promise you that. Um, I, I, I oftentimes, you know, forget how big the reach is here at the deal maker world. There's so many people that tens of hundreds of thousands, if not millions of people that are hearing messages, either through the books, through emails, through social, through the podcast show, et cetera, on a consistent basis. And, um, thank you guys so much for all the Five Star reviews, all the book reviews, all that stuff. It really means the world to me in all seriousness. So thank you guys for that. Today's show real quick update on my sister.

(03:52): If you remember last I was sharing about my sister in the hospital. Well, things took a turn for the worst, um, two weeks ago now, I guess she had emergency surgery and I got a call at 8:00 PM from my niece, my sister's daughter. And she says, get down here, uncle mark. It doesn't look good. Meaning get down here. She's going to die. And me, my wife and kids literally threw everything in a BA um, you know, a suitcase and just headed out. It's about a three hour drive. Um, we got there about midnight and the whole family's there, multiple people, many, many people, many people haven't seen a long time. And, um, I go see my sister and she's on a, you know, she's in a coma, she's on a ventilator. She has, uh, hundreds and like I'm over exaggerating a little bit, but she had a lot, a lot, a lot, a lot of stuff stuck in her and she couldn't breathe on her own coma.

(04:58): Obviously you can't breathe. You're not breathing on your own, but as of today, as I'm talking to you and you're listening to this on a Wednesday, August 31st, it's her 42nd birthday. And she's actually still alive. Two weeks later, it's a miracle, truthfully. She only had like a, a 2% chance of living doctors. Can't believe she's alive. Nurses definitely can't believe she's alive. We're all like, I mean, you, this has been an amazing over the top emotional roller coaster for the family, as you can imagine inside the deal maker Alliance and my DM family groups that I, you know, share, I'm sharing behind the scenes stuff what's really going on. And you know, just detailed stuff about, you know, being around the family. I actually stayed down there for the last 10 days, got a house. Um, I stayed with my parents for a couple days.

(05:49): I can only do that so long. I don't know about you guys, but I, I, I need my space. I need, you know, I got stuff to do. I'm, you know, I, I think differently, I talk differently. I act differently and I'll share why that's important here in a second, but we got a lake house and we just sit there. Me and my wife and kids, and, you know, I was at the hospital and, you know, just being there for support, being close, like minutes away from the hospital, if something happened, I could be there. Um, they, they, you know, they start shrinking the timelines down on the visits because things were looking better. And, um, I got a call last night, my mom said, she's kind of doing physical therapy, kind of me, physical therapy and her condition is we'll go your toes.

(06:26): If you hear me, your right foot, your left foot, your hand and stuff like that. So absolutely insanely, insanely, insanely grateful that she's still here with us. Couple things on this one, prayer works. positive vibes, work miracles do happen. Um, about 20 something years ago, I've seen a miracle happen with my mother. She's still alive. And you know, we actually, for real, I'm not saying this to be silly. We pulled the plug and she ended up living. Um, and the doctor said 100% chance. My mom was not going to live. And she is alive today. So miracles do work so never stop. You know, praying, never stop thinking a miracle is gonna happen. And you just never know. But I do know it won't happen if you're not praying and, and believe in miracles two, I can only hang out with the family so long.

(07:18): You know, again, I'm not saying this in a negative way. This is just reality. What my, with the world I grew up in, what they talk about, what they think about what they consume in their brain, what they eat in their body. Everything they do is different. I'm very grateful to be for my family, by the way. It's not that it's just, I'm very grateful though. I got out of my small town. I got out of the day to day and I see so many people and my mom and dad know this. This is not a secret, but I see so many people doing the same things, expecting different results, showing up at the same place as expecting to look different, talk different, think different. But if you don't believe your circle of influence is influencing you, you're absolutely fucking mind boggling. Crazy. It's literally like they're watch the news.

(08:10): They believe the news. They talk about the news. They talk about shit that does not do anything in life to change anything for real, like, I wanna talk about growth, progression problems, but with solutions, I wanna talk about the obstacles. Who are we hiring? Who are we growing? What are we gonna buy? What are we gonna develop? How are we gonna create revenue? How are we gonna do? Like, I wanna grow. Obviously I'm present. I'm there with the family, but like, you don't have to do nothing. And it's almost, it's not almost it's normal. They're Hey, you only drink. You drink six bottles of mountain Dew. I drink, I only drink four. So I'm in better shape than you. Huh? You know, you only eat 12 donuts a week. I only eat eight you know, stuff like that. And again, I'm not knocking it.

(08:58): It's just the reality of my world. That's how I grew up. And when I go back there, I'm just thankful and grateful that I was able to understand this is a mindset shift. Like I was always plotting of how to get out. Cuz I saw it. I just realized there, this is not the life I want to live my whole life. I want to build, I want to grow. I want to evolve. I wanna see what I'm capable of. I never thought about I'm gonna fail. Oh, it's gonna be embarrassing. Fuck that. You know, what's embarrassing. Not doing anything. That's what's embarrassing and not do anything about it. Thinking you're a victim thinking it can't happen for you. Well, dude, have you. If you've ever hung out with like wealthy people or people doing stuff big in life, you're gonna realize their only, the only difference in them than you is they're executing.

(09:48): They're growing, they're pushing their prodding. But rest assured, if you're listening to the deal DM project here, this podcast show and consuming good stuff in your brain on audio and video and you know what you're reading and all this stuff. I mean, it absolutely would change your life. I know cuz it changed my life fact. So very grateful to be out. Now I'm back home here in Cleveland area in a playing catch. But what was cool is financially, I don't have to work. I enjoy working. I love to grow. It's not about the money, but what the money will do. And one of the greatest things I was able to do when this was going on with my sisters, be able to get up and go whenever I wanted to get up and rent a nicest place, they had, I rented the nicest boat they had just to have it on the docks in case my mom and dad wanted to get away for a minute in case I wanted to anybody, it was there paid tens of, you know, lots of money to do that.

(10:45): And that's a convenience and that's what money it is for me. It it's, it's just options instead of hunkering down and you know, staying with 27 people going crazy. I, I want, I need my space and I'm gonna go. I've worked really hard to do that. And uh, that's a process, right? And I'm not bragging. I'm just sharing the truth. And then, you know, my sister's situation financially is not good and it's not gonna be any better being down for as long. She's gonna be down for months, right. As she pulls through this. Um, so you know, behind the scenes I gave my parents some money and said, Hey, take care of whatever. If you need more, let me know. The truth is when I went there, I went there with the thought of burial, you know, cost of bearing someone I've seen this happen in my family, where again, in all seriousness, they, they get cremated instead of buried because cremation's cheaper.

(11:39): And that's what the only funds they have. They don't even have headstones cuz that costs money. And um, I saw that my whole life. So I was just grateful as I was driving there just one I could be present for my parents and the situation at hand and I have to worry about anything. I have amazing team team members all over the world, helping and uh, supporting, um, everything, which is awesome. It's a team effort, not a mark effort. Um, but I had to start somewhere, right. I started with myself and grew this to where it's at today. And just knowing that I could take the financial burden off, cuz again, I think I've seen financial burdens, kill people. People kill themselves because of financial burdens. Right? So that off the table takes a lot, a lot of stress off the, the situation. And again, I'm proud that I got out and generated enough money to be able to do that.

(12:30): And you know, I, we can pay anything for their bills, make sure she's good. Get outta the weeds and then pursue once you get up and running. But um, again, just very thankful and grateful. So build your businesses or business or whatever to support your vision, to support what you're doing. See, a lot of people don't know all the work. I mean I've been 26 years as an entrepreneur and I, you know, these moments are going to happen to all of us. We are going to experience death, tragic loss situations at hand. And are you prepared? I personally, and I've talked about this on many podcast shows. I want to be overly financially prepared. There's nothing good about being under financially prepared for anything. My situation is my sister, right? So I'm prepared for that. My situa like I've been prepared for that long time.

(13:26): So this going to happen and um, I'm just very proud of myself that I did that. Truthfully, just talking straight with you. So let's talk about being married. as an entrepreneur, I get asked all the time about this. You know, my wife personally, you know, straight up has never worked since she's known me since 24 years old. She's in her, she's a young forties now. And um, you know, I'm again, I'm proud of that. She's a, you know, great mom be, she's working on herself, she's doing cool stuff with her life and evolving and growing. And I've always wanted to be that guy. I wanted to be that man that took care of the fucking fam all the way around, not just me, but them, my, my parents, everybody else. Right. So as I sit here and talk to you, I want you to know like these are, I, I have some different rules, eight.

(14:18): I thought of like eight big things. There's a lot more than this, but eight things that I kind of live by and it's not always pretty Mar you know, again, relationships, aren't always pretty, but, um, marriage to me when I said I do and all that stuff, I mean it through thick and thin, I mean it, it's not bullshit. Lip, lip service truth is Dean and I were engaged for eight years before we got married. Not because we didn't want to get married, but like, it's like, dude, like we want, I wanna talk this shit and I'm gonna talk real stuff. What we did and what I shared with her, a lot of people, they get caught up. Well, oh man. You know, if I say this, she might leave me. Fuck dude, she's gonna leave you anyways. Like say it now let's get it outta the way.

(14:57): So before Dina and I got married, true story, I was like, Hey, I cuz again guys and gals, you guys can understand what I'm saying here is like, there's certain things you want to say, but if you say it, it's gonna turn into a massive fight and it's gonna turn into you don't understand or don't turn this on me and all that stuff. And I don't like that. I'm not about that. I'm about, you know, let's say it and solve and move on and grow. And um, but prior to us getting married, I told my wife, I was like, Dina, my fiance back then. I was like, Hey, I wanna go to two relationship counseling sessions. Pre-marriage just to talk. And uh, both sessions were crying. I'm crying. Like I'm sharing real stuff. She's sharing stuff. It's getting heated. And you know, I, I like the third party moderator to moderate the conversation, to assist us, to get out what we want to say, get out what needs to be said so we can grow and move.

(15:48): I'm not trying to sweep it under the rug and you know, go to all my friends and talk shit and all that stuff. If I have something to say, I'm gonna say it in front of everybody. Like, it's just, it's just what I do. So, and I, I just, it served me to this point anyways. but that happened. And you know, she was kind of, you know, at first, not, not so keen on it, right? Cuz it's like some people think going to a coach or going to a counselor's week. I see it as massive strength. I have coaches in every area of my life, health, wealth, financial, mental, all this shit. Why not people wanna help you? They have businesses that you can pay to help you. That's how they make money by helping you, you help. Like it's, it's a no brainer. Coaches is a no brainer. Um, but anyways, we still, one of my, one of my things here is hire a relationship coach, my wife and I meet a relationship coach. Once a week, we talk for 45 minutes and we connect. Um, maybe there's something that's driving my wife nuts. She'll say it. Maybe it's something driving me nuts. I'll say it. And as you know, guys and girls talk and communicate differently. And so when I'm saying something, it might sound like I'm being cold, but I'm just saying it moving on. But my wife needs to be heard. I need to understand where she's coming from and all that good stuff. So it's good to have that moderator again. I, I think one thing to be clear though, I'm not trying to be right. I'm trying to be better. So when I'm going into situations with my wife, I'm not trying to be right.

(17:19): Cuz every time I'm trying to be right, I'm always going to lose. Right. Cause it's an ego thing. I just want to be a great husband, a great dad, a great son, a great brother, a great friend. And like, you gotta be receptive. You gotta be listening. You gotta understand. Like we evolve, we change. We grow. And like I'm not trying to be right. I'm just trying to be better. So, you know, that takes a lot of communication skills. And as I get a little bit older, a little bit wiser, some of the stuff starts coming to fruition. So another one never go to bed or start the day off nagging or complaining. This has always served me. I don't like to wake up with disruption. Actually. I wake up way earlier than the family typically. And I start my day off, you know, do the sauna, do some reading, go out and do the workout.

(18:05): Just get stuff going, like get the body moving. Right. And um, you know, the kids are up now. We have kids and you know, like I wanna start the day off smooth and just like ready to go attack the day and you know, let's go, it, it's not always the case. Obviously everything I'm saying is not a hundred percent, don't get me wrong. But the majority of the time, especially in the morning for sure is very like smooth and mellow and you know, whatever at night, sometimes things get heated, you know, depending on the situation. But we, we try to, you know, just squash it and move on. Try to never go to bed mad. Right? Should I, we might not wake up in the morning. Something might happen. So I wanna like, it just settles the mind. It kind of like relaxes you and just, you can sleep better and wake up feeling better.

(18:54): Just things are much better if you never go to bed or start the day off nagging and complaining number two, something to do often dream together, dream. So fucking big. Like it scares you. It scares her. A lot of people come to me and say, man, my partner's not on board, my wife or husband or whatever. How do you get him? It's like, well, are you dreaming with him? Are you talking it out loud? Are you showing them? No, man. You know, I just, they don't get it. It's like, how are they ever going to get it? If we're not sharing it, see the difference with me and my wife. I kind, I was kind of already built building companies. She met me when I was 27. I was building companies since 18, I guess I should say I was an entrepreneur starting at 18.

(19:36): I wasn't really building a company. I had build a job, but I was a real entrepreneur. And uh, so she didn't see those moments. But you know, there's a lot of stressful times. I mean, shit. As I'm speaking to you today, we're dealing with a pretty big situation on one of our companies. Real big, actually. So big almost didn't do this podcast show cuz I actually have to hunker down after I get off the show and, and make some really, really big, bold moves that are massively financial losses and moves. Uh, so it is what it is, but you gotta dream. You gotta share this shit. You know, this is not a silent battle. This is not like, you know, my biggest fear in life is always growing apart from my wife where I'm pursuing massive goals and she's settled down. So how do you minimize that problem?

(20:27): Persisting or growing constantly sharing goals. Hey, I'm buying this big G five. I'm buying this G4. Hey, I'm gonna buy this big house. Hey, we're gonna build this house. Hey let's what kind of house would you like? Hey, what kind of lot? Hey blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah. Like stuff like dream. By the way I dream with my kids. I share the dreams. I want them to share their dreams with me. Keep mind, mind they're seven and three. So their dreams are a little different right now. But as they evolve, they're they're, we're building this into them. Number three, this goes across the board for everything in my life. If you complain, come with a fucking solution, don't just come here to complain, to complain, come with a solution. I see so many people talk shit, but then you ask 'em what the solve is.

(21:10): And they have no clue. They're just shit talkers. Don't let that be you. And if that's you straighten up, come with solutions, be positive, be optimistic, have a result. Call come with multiple solutions. By the way, that means you're thinking that means you're deep diving. That means you're more aware of what's going on. If you're just a shit talker, you're just a talker. What I've found is if you come with solutions to any situation, you will typically be a doer or at least a way better chance of a doer than a, just a shit talker. Number five, I already said number four, higher, a relationship coach. Number five, life is short, treat it. So keep the adventure alive. I love doing spontaneous things. Me and my wife traveled the world for seven years around the world in a spontaneous way. Truthfully, we never knew where we were going.

(22:06): We'd wake up on a sat a Friday and be somewhere else. Totally like we'd have zero clue and be so in a totally different part of the world on Saturday, um, spontaneous has always served me. I like to make the moves. It's not always that it's, it's kind of stressful sometimes, but it, you know, expectation wise, you just go with the flow, right? So oftentimes I'll wake up say, Hey D let's go here and she'll say, eh, nah, I can't do it this week. Here's why or today or whatever. Um, last week, no, two weeks ago, I guess right before my sister's stuff happened, um, we were sitting at a bench in a park right down the street from the house having lunch spontaneously woke up said, Hey babe, let's go have lunch today. Okay, let's do it. She packed a lunch and we went and hung out and talked and just laughed and talked about stuff and no kids around just us.

(22:55): Um, spontaneous is always, you know, fun and exciting. I see too many people structuring things out, changing things around spontaneous, keeps it a little alive. It keeps it alive at another level. In my opinion, number six. It's okay to be wrong and apologize. Ugh. I hate being wrong. but when you're wrong, you just accept it and own it and say, sorry, not just say it but mean it it's always, you know, sometimes I still struggle with this again, back to that, I'm not trying to be right. But sometimes I am right. But I just, you know, and sometimes I'm wrong. Um, it is what it is, you know? I think you gotta what's that saying? You gotta agree to disagree kind of thing, but just apologize. You know? Listen, I, I apologize. I don't see your point. I didn't see your point of view, but now I do, you know, I'm not again.

(23:47): It's not about, I like, we're always learning. We're always growing number seven. This is a big myth. I see man. Relationships is a 50 50 thing. I dig. I disagree to me. A relationship is a hundred percent thing and a hundred percent thing. If I only showed up 50%, that's bullshit. I show up a hundred percent. I show up, I wanna be healthy. I wanna be wealthy. I wanna be wise. I wanna be hungry. I wanna be hardworking. I wanna be the man. I wanna do this shit. I wanna be a hundred percent me. I want my wife to show up the same way. I want her to be confident. You know, you know, ready to kick ass with me, be my ride or die, you know, punch someone in the face, throw punch 'em. If they talk shit about me, not be passive a hundred percent each too many people.

(24:32): And by the way, this goes for my business relationships and personal relationships. Today's the personal side. So I'll share up more later on that number eight date each other weekly. Don't forget. What got you to marriage is the dating process. I know I haven't been a hundred percent on this back in the day, but I make a very hard conscious non-negotiable effort to go somewhere with my wife once a week. Either a lot of times it's not even dinner dates, it's lunch dates. Cuz I love hanging out with the kids. I know my wife does as well. And uh, but if we do dinner, which actually we're going to do tomorrow, I'm going to drop the kids off at my in-laws and we're gonna go have dinner and then we'll pick 'em up. Right? So we go have a date, disconnect, talk about whatever. And uh, oftentimes about dreaming, about goals.

(25:23): What's going on? Are we going off track? You know, what can we do more of what do you need from me? Hon, stuff like that. So those are my top eight pieces. And again, by the way, dating doesn't cost money. You go to the fucking park and hang out and go or go jogging or just go hang out, take a notepad and paper connect, take a bottle of water connect, sit and talk to me. It's more of a pause for a moment to connect with my wife. As there are a million things going on, we have lots of stuff going on. We all do. There's no excuse you can't take out 30 or 60 minutes a week. If you truly care about wanting to grow your relationship with your spouse. And again, I try to be all conscious of this. I'm not a hundred percent everywhere. you know, like I, I know I have a lot of mentors and you know, they're like, oh, this is the way it is. It's like, dude, like, no one's a hundred percent. The best of the best is not a hundred percent of one thing. I promise you. They strive to be. But no one is perfect, no one's perfect here, but it's as long as it's conscious and you're making a real effort and you're, you're being genuinely real with yourself, it definitely will serve you because you're, you're, you're aware. So those are the eight things as an entrepreneur, crazy guy, that's helped me in eight years of marriage with my wife and I have a lot of other stuff, you know like, and I'll share those every year with you as we evolve. But again, today's show is about awareness. Today's show is about appreciation.

(26:59): Today's show is all about gratitude. We are. And again, when I'm hanging out with my sister and I just hold her hand, I tell her, I love her and I'm here and you know, you got this blah, blah, blah, stuff like this. As I was telling her goodbye. And you know, couple weeks ago is, and I'll be here for your kids. You know, whatever you need, just let me know kind of thing. Life is sure could be your moment and live while you're alive. You know, one of the biggest lies is like you only live once. Bullshit dude, every fucking day, I wake up, I'm alive. I'm living, right? We only die once. Unfortunately, some people are walking around half dead. They just haven't checked out yet. They've checked out a life, but not checked out of universe universe. Right? Don't be that person.

(27:54): And like I started to show off. Don't quit, do not quit. That's one thing about my sister. She's a hard ass. She's not a quitter. She's a fighter. That's why we butt heads so much. But you gotta fight. You gotta keep your feet moving. When shit hits the fan, you hunker the fuck down. You get serious. You get excited. The shit storm that's going on in one of our companies right now, I text the whole team, the two guys running the team. And I said, I don't know about you guys, but I'm a fucking weirdo. I love this shit. I love when things are bad. I love when my w my back is against the wall. I love when people are fucking stealing from me, taking, leaving, thinking, they're pulling something over me, cuz I will fucking squash their throat. I will literally laugh at them. As I succeed at new levels, we will get stronger. We will get tighter. We will get better. We will learn from this and we will evolve. We won't talk about it today. We will execute today. We'll talk about this shit. Five years, 10 years, 20 years from now, they write books about this shit. That's the shit that excites me. If you can't tell, listen to my voice. I'm excited. Cuz when I get off this podcast show, I'm in the pit. I'm in the fire right beside you. The question is, are you a fucking quitter or are you a doer? Are you gonna step up? Are you gonna step out? Are you gonna look at this as an opportunity? Or are you gonna look at this as an obstacle?

(29:41): I only wanna roll with fucking winners. And if any of my team members are listening to this show, if you're not a fucking winner, if you're not a ride or die, get the fuck out of the way that goes for partners, business owners, I work with teammates that work with me, sells people, work with all of you. We're in this game for life to win, to build, to grow. And in times like this, this is when teams get tighter, stronger and things grow massively. See, it's funny about two years ago, something happened with a guy and I've shared this on the show a little bit, but the guy fucking stole for me straight up stole cool. He didn't pop a chair. It's happened before, right? But it hurt because he was close to me and I allowed it to happen. It's my fault. By the way, not his fucking fault.

(30:33): He took the easy route me, but he stole from me and you know what? He has a miserable fucking life. He had to move into an apartment. He has a shitty car, a shitty life and shitty friend. He doesn't have friends cuz he is a shitty guy. My life's better. I'm making more money. I have better cars. I have better house. Yes. I'm fucking comparing. Cuz I know this is how real life works. You do shitty stuff. You get shitty stuff. You do the right shit. This is the guy that's like dude, heart power. I do the right thing. When it's hard, this motherfucker doesn't do anything. Right? Anything. It's easy to say it when it's easy but saying it and doing it. When the shit happens is where the magic occurs. The universe is watching. I promise you that the question is how are you responding? What are you doing in those moments? When no one is watching you accept the fucking universe, what are you doing in those moments? See, when I say I'll do something, I fucking mean it. I'm not just saying it to be cool. I'm not saying it. Cause I read some fucking meme online. I'm saying it because it's real and authentic period. Too many fuckers out here, talking shit, acting cool. Just do the right thing. That's the cool thing.

(32:15): It's not sexy. It's not fun. I was talking with my buddy. He just sold a company for lots of money. And I was telling him what's going on? He's like, dude, isn't it funny? We love this shit. This is where we thrive. This is where we find out who the real team players are and who the weak ones are. This is how the like literally I have pictures. I have pictures. I'm looking at, as I speak to you of the guys that fucked this up and I want to crush. 'em not, I want to, I will crush them through results. I don't have to do anything to them. I don't have to touch them. I don't have to. It's nothing about that. It's about me showing like I will prevail and they'll be fucking clowns for the rest of their life. And they'll act like right now they're winning. But deep down inside, they know they're fucking losers. They know it. They're the same dad saying, come on, son, this just go out there and have fun. That's all it matters, motherfucker. I wanna I'm winning. That's what matters. You know I have fun when I win. No Johnny, you deserve an eighth place trophy. You worked really hard. Just like Jimmy. No, you fucking didn't. If you did, you'd have the first place trophy. You barely showed up at practice. You don't run cadence at a high level. You're fucking slacking. Get your ass up. My kids earn for a treat, right? that's how my dad taught me. He taught me how to be a real fucking man. He taught me how to be a real leader. See my mom and dad, they don't have a lot of money, but they have a lot of fucking sense.

(33:58): They showed me the right path. My job in this journey of life is the change. The financial trajectory of the Evans name. My mom and dad did a great job with what they had, the tools, the equipment they had. My job is to be aware of that. Take what I have now. My mom and dad never gave me a toy. I never got anything. Everyone had everything, but me. Get the fuck over it. Dude. You're 20 years past that. What are you going to do about it now? And I'm going on a tangent, but I'm telling you, I, I promise you this mindset I'm sharing with you right now is the same exact mindset I have across all boards in all pieces of my life and my wife and I's relationship. My business relationships, my team, relationships, everything, my relationship with myself. Get the fuck up.

(34:46): Push harder, work harder. Be smarter. Think bigger, do more, be more, give more. It's not always easy. It's very rarely easy. Why? Cuz you're pushing yourself. If you're not dry heaving acid reflux stressed out, overwhelmed, excited. At the same time, you are not going hard enough. I've made some bad fucking moves in the last two years, but I've made some really good ones. You know what though? I don't look at these as taking in L for a loss. I look at 'em for taking in L for a lesson. I can't go backwards. I can just learn from what happened too. Many of you fuckers are out there. Well, man, you know, real estate went down in 2008, motherfucker. It's 2022. And you're still talking about your problem right now. As I speak to you, trust me on this. Shit's about to happen at a whole new level, a level that you've never seen before and you're gonna be on the right side or the wrong side.

(35:59): It is a fucking choice. So as my boy, Sean always says, get your fucking house in order now because it's gonna be too late. When you realize you have to be in order, you'll be so far behind the eight ball and I'm talking financially, physically, emotionally, mentally, overread over listen to audiobook, positive shit what's working. What's not how to grow, how to push, how to be a better leader, how to grow your financial future. How to grow your financial fortress, how to grow your temple. I E your body. How to grow your relationships, how to deepen 'em I'm watching it. I'm watching you. Relationships are fluttering all over the place. Cuz they're fucking weak. People been out here hanging. It's so easy. I just made a million dollars this week. Cool motherfucker. What do you got now? Cause what last week doesn't matter. I get it.

(36:54): What are you gonna do? You're the only thing that can change this. Pay attention to your thoughts. Most importantly, pay attention to your actions. Keep score at a higher level. Are you doing the right thing? Be honest with yourself. Cause that's all it matters. You either are or aren't are you giving it your all? Are you taking it easy? Have you taken it easy too long? What are you gonna do about it? It will be the greatest wealth transfer over the next 12 months. Mark. My words, this podcast show is recorded and align forever. You come back and listen to this show 12 months from now, I told you so I know. So it's happening already. Accumulations taking place. Fear is set in. People are going fucking crazy. Lose bat shit crazy. All the ballers are bawling, crying.

(37:52): The majority, not all the fronters the fakers, the talkers, the mean posters, real business guys and gals. We will fucking crush our goals in the next 24 months, 36 months. Wealth will come in such a big level. It it's not even fathomable to your brain right now. I pro I'm telling you hunker down, get serious, stop taking those fucking vacations just to be cool and hang out and post memes and whatever pictures to try to be cool. It's your time. And I wanna see everyone in my circle, in my world, bigger, stronger, mentally, physically, emotionally, financially, et cetera. And I wanna see you grow to the level. You never even thought was possible. It starts now three years from now. It shows up, but it starts now today. Push it excited for you. So I gotta go with that said make day count.

(39:00): Kevin's I'm to helping teach him what I, what I know and how I to discover freedom there. Ain't no question more Kevin. When, what a deal maker, a deal maker, but I'm not just a deal maker. I'm a dream maker. The journeys where it's at, it's all about the process. Come to kids over to the team project from a small town of why. So I know how it is. Can not come from a lot of money. I remember as a kid, one of them make honey brats. See no one making more than that. Graduated high school with a 1.8, like should have held me back. I owe my principals and teachers are alive just to witness this I'm own ball. Some out here running two way, figure businesses. I can walk away from it all. I'll be good. I been called to help people just like, y'all learn the game.

(39:51): It's come to ball. Everybody chasing the money, but I'm not chasing the money. I'm about chasing the purpose show. I been working my whole life. Guess where we had, is it gonna get us where we wanna go? So it's to push, to learn, to grows. I'm that helping teach him what I, what I know and how I freedom that ain't push Kevin's when step the he's what, what the DM stands for. I'm a deal maker, a deal maker, but I'm not just a deal maker. I'm a dream maker. The journeys where it's at, it's all about the process. Get over to the DM project, deal, deal, deal, deal, makeup, deal, makeup.

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