Welcome to the “Making of a DM.” I made my father's dream come true and I want to share the details with you, and how I hope it can help you expedite your dreams and the other dreams of people around you that you care for and love the most. So, with that said, let's get started.
Mark: Hey, there, it’s your boy, Mark Evans DM. Thank you so much for being here and listening to the Making of a DM. Today's show is going to be epic, maybe even a little emotional. I don't know, I’m kind of a feeling good today, got a lot of cool stuff going on, and I did something pretty fucking amazing to be honest and I’m proud of myself. I’ll share that with you here in a second. [01:12.5]
But I need you guys to do me a huge favor. If I’ve provided any value in any way, shape or form on these shows, I need you to pause this and get over to iTunes and give me a massive fucking five-star review and let me know you did that, please. It would mean the world to me. I don't really ask for much. I actually don't fucking ask for anything really. That would mean a lot to me today because I’ve got to start asking more.
I always tell my guys and the DM Family, the 50k group a year, where they pay me to help them. It's like, Dude, if you need help, you’ve got to ask. If you want something, you’ve got to ask. People aren't just waiting around, thinking that they know what you want. You fucking ask for it if you want it, kind of like you’ve got to ask yourself, you’ve got to tell yourself what you want, and then you’ve got to go get it. So, I’m asking you to get over to iTunes and leave a five-star review. [02:03.1]
And I’m going to give another ask while I’m asking. I’m in the asking mode. If you get over to Amazon, if you've purchased the book, MEconomy, which thousands of people have purchased it, thank you very much—I appreciate that a lot because we're going to be able to give a lot of money away to charity and, as you know, all the profits do go to charity—but on Amazon, get over there and leave a massive five-star review as well and hit me up. Hit the DM up in the DM on Instagram. Let me know you left a five-star review. Maybe I’ll shoot you a quick message or something or shoot you a cool gift. I’m not sure yet, but, fuck, if I don't send you anything, I’m shooting this podcast show, taking my time to share real with you guys, so tThat is pretty powerful in itself, I believe.
Enough of that. Today has been crazy, man. I got up a little after four o'clock as I pretty much always do, but just a different cadence, a different feeling today, little zing in the step, if you will as I’m recording this. Two days ago, 48 hours, I did something pretty epic, something very special actually, and I want to share that with you. This will be a shorter show today, probably about 15, 20 minutes. [03:06.8]
But what I did was neat. My son and I jumped in a car and drove down to my dad. I bought my dad his dream car. His dream car was always a Corvette as I was as small as I can remember, a kid sitting in the old Ford Econoline van, going to work with my dad at four, five, six, seven years old, whatever. Every time he saw a Corvette, he was like, Mark, one day, I’m going to get one of these. Mark, I’m going to get one of these. Damn, that's a nice looking Vette. Man, that's nice. Aw, that 63 split Vette is amazing, aw.
I heard this my whole life, my whole life. Still, even as an adult, I’d be hanging out with them and we'd be in the Rolls, and he'd see a Corvette and he'd still like the Corvette better than Rolls, which is awesome as his generation and he's got the New Balances to prove it, but I can't knock him, I wear the same.
But it was a big moment, and to be honest with you, I could have done this, I could have bought him his dream car 20 years ago. I had the funds to do it. I’d thought about it. For some reason, I didn't do it. [04:06.4]
I may share something big with you guys. I’m not sure yet. If I get enough responses and all that stuff, I might, but I do thought-audits weekly, once or twice a week at least. I write letters to myself. I wrote an eight-page letter to myself about this car thing, the experience, the thoughts, why I didn't do it, just minimizing my dreams. We all do this silly at all levels.
I know sometimes people see me and they're like, Dude, you're fucking crushing it. You're generating millions of dollars a month and this and that, and yet we all still do this and I just like to think about it for myself, first and foremost, to kind of get over it and how to grow and expand, and what's cool about it is I get to share this with you guys and it's very vulnerable because it's raw. It's a letter to myself. I don't write these to be like, Oh, wait, the grammar is amazing and this has got a cool sales hook, and whatever, but I just write the way I write and I keep them kind of for my personal self as I’m growing. [05:03.8]
I kind of envision, to be honest with you, we're all going to die, but I envision maybe one day, that day, I should say, when I die, maybe these letters get put together in 20, 30, 40, 50, 200 pages, 2,000 pages, whatever, the journey of the DM or something. Maybe my son does that as a cool passion project or my daughter or someone that cares about me that has access to these documents, because I’m talking about all kinds of stuff all the time to myself and thought-auditing is a real thing for me, so this is not some bullshit thing I talk about. It's something I genuinely know. If you understand your thoughts, you will change your life, one hundred percent, if you understand where they're coming from and all this.
So, I was thought-auditing, journaling, and this Corvette started popping up. I’ve written down on my goals, “I’m going to buy my dad his Corvette,” whatever. One day, and over the last 60 days, it really started popping up a lot, and if things are popping up a lot, that means something. Instead of avoiding the conversation, I just wrote it down and started talking more about it. [06:13.4]
I could be walking my property or doing something and we'd be like, Hey, get your dad that Vette. When are you going to do it, Mark? To Myself. I sit down and I executed the thought, and that's where the real magic happens with thought-auditing. Listen, a lot of people are thinking about a lot of shit. Very few people take action on shit, and I know that to be true because I’ve seen it happen many, many times all the time.
So, I made it happen. I jumped online. I called, literally, probably 25 dealerships. I don't even know how many, a lot, because I don't know. I don't follow Corvettes. I don't know what's cool, what's not, what's good, what's bad, whatever. I looked at the Stingray, the new 2019 Stingray. I always knew my dad didn’t like the new body styles. He has made that clear to me. I’d be just talking to him and he’d be like, Ah, that thing looks like shit. The engine is in the back, blah, blah, blah. The old school Corvette guys don’t want the engine in the back. They want it in the front, right? [07:05.0]
I put this together and made a lot of calls, spent a lot of time online. We live in a pretty cool world where you can literally search the entire country for Corvettes, the entire world, if you want, but the entire country. I want the white one. I want the black interior. I want the red interior, blah, blah, blah, whatever. There's really no excuse. If you want something, you can go find it.
But I found two and the one I went with was a 2019 Corvette, Grand Sport, all white, has the carbon package, and all black interior. If you check it out, maybe I’ll put it on my website at Mark Evans DM. I did a post about it as well, which was really cool. I shared this video.
If you haven't seen the video, make sure to check it out on Instagram @MarkEvansDM, because I did a cool little video thing of me and my son going there and just talking to my son for three hours. It's a three-hour drive from Cleveland to where my parents live, and him and I are driving the car and just talking like, Hey, Mark. Three generations. My son is the third. I’m the junior. My dad is the senior. It's really an epic moment, to be honest, and just being able to share, teach my son about the art of giving, the power of giving. [08:20.0]
In an interesting way, I actually believe I’ve got more out of it than my dad, which is really cool, and because I got to do it with Mark, my son, and I got to do it for me because it's something I’ve dreamt about for my dad's dream. Then, it's kind of cool. My dad was actually speechless, which is neat because he's not often speechless. He'll usually say something smart-alecky like I do. That means he likes us, by the way. But, literally, this is something he's dreamed about his whole life and, genuinely, I’m not saying this in a disrespectful way, they don't have the financial means to ever accomplish it. It's not what they've done. It's not how they've saved. It was just out of their world. [09:00.3]
I was able to make the decision and execute, and pay for it cash and hand them the keys to a 2019 Grand Sport Corvette. I’m telling you, when I pulled up, I’m revving the engine. My sisters are out there. My sister was. No one knew. Actually, no one in the family knew. They were just kind of actually hanging outside randomly and my mom walks out and starts screaming. My dad comes out and he’s like, What the …? What is this? There's a big red bow on it.
You hear my son. If you get a chance to watch the video, but you hear my son like, They're freaking out, Dad. They're freaking out. They're so excited. Oh my gosh, can I get out now? Because the plan was, we would ring the doorbell. The car would be parked out back and my dad would walk out. Mark would hand him a Corvette hat because I bought him a Corvette hat, put a big red bow on the car. Mark would hand on the hat and say, Ta-da, kind of like fun, and Grandpa would be like, What is this? and then we would tell him and explain. But you improvise and we did, and it worked out pretty cool. [09:58.4]
We're leading by example. I’m trying to be a role model for my children and a role model for people who follow me. I don't talk about a lot of this shit until I actually do it and go through the journey. I don’t read a book and be like, Oh, this is what you do, but, fuck, I’ve never done it. But I actually do the shit.
Anybody you follow, by the way, if they're just fucking talking, don't follow them. They're wasting your time. They're lying to you because they genuinely don't know what the hell they're talking about. They’re just sharing a message that they’ve read a book about. But you have to follow people who are doing shit. You’ve got to follow people. I mean, it's easy to talk, but when the rubber meets the road, that's where the real magic happens, where the real emotions, where the real anxiety stems from.
It was exciting, man. The truth is, if I went out and bought myself another Rolls-Royce or a Bugatti or anything, I wouldn't have been happier. To me, giving is one of the most amazing gifts in the world. I’m very fortunate to be able to do that. I’ve put myself in the position to do it. I want to do it more. That's why I can do all my books that the sales go to charity. That's why all these things happen. It’s because I’ve written down goals and I’ve made it happen. [11:10.6]
I’m not saying it's always easy. It's not always easy seeing tens of hundreds of thousands of dollars go out when shit is getting tight for a moment. Maybe you're getting punched in the face in your companies and this and that. But it really is an amazing, amazing thing.
For us, actually as my wife is coming out here real quick, she's dropping off a cigar out back in the woods. Let me ask her a question. Let's get her on the podcast show. This is Deena’s entrance to the podcast show.
Deena, I’m just talking about the gift of giving my dad that Corvette. What did you think about it? Was it cool?
Deena: Oh, yeah. He was so surprised and so happy.
Mark: Does it make you feel good giving and being able to do that or …?
Deena: Yes, of course. I mean, yeah, to give him a dream. He has always talked about it and then for him to just have it, give it to him.
Mark: That's awesome. Anything else? Parting words? [12:01.8]
Mark: We have to do a show with Deena here soon. If you guys want a show with Deena and I, talking about crazy stuff that we talk about or don't talk about, just let me know. Maybe we'll do something here soon. Hit me up in the DM., like I said. Just say, “Deena and Mark, let's talk.”
But, yeah, you guys, we have a lot of opportunity around us to do things for others who genuinely can't do it for themselves. What’s cool about it, too, I posted kind of the video. It's a 54-second video of me pulling up and doing all that on social recently and I had hundreds of people respond to me. Not one negative, by the way. Everything was amazing.
But what was actually more interesting to me, and I’m very honored, is one of my guys that work with us at one of our companies, he actually messaged me privately and said, “Yo, dude, I actually just bought my dad a new car in February because of the position I’m in and blah, blah, blah, making a lot of money,” and I’m like, Dude, why the fuck didn’t you tell me about this earlier? That's amazing. [13:07.6]
A lot of people don't share stuff because they're afraid to be judged and I actually love it. I want to see him win. He actually works with me, makes a lot of money. I want to pay him more money, because he's a big fucking giver. He's a big doer. He's a great guy. My old me, I’m just sharing out loud, my old me is like, How do I work this guy like a fucking dog and pay him less? Then when he starts making a little bit more than he should—in my mind, by the way. When he should. That's my opinion, not his opinion—how do I pay him less because I’ve got him fucking tied in so deep, he can't go anywhere?
I used to play those games, by the way, and it's bullshit. It doesn't serve me, never would serve that individual, and they'd always leave me and there'd always be resentment, and it's just very immature business, very immature just mindset in general.
But I genuinely come from abundance now and I wake up in the morning thinking about how my guys can make more money, guys and gals, how my teams can make more money, how I can help them elevate. Not only make it, how they can protect it, how they can grow it, how they can give it. [14:11.8]
See, I’m trying to help them accelerate or expedite what they're able to do. Maybe if my journey could make their path a little faster, that excites me. But it's cool to see him make enough money working with us, that he's able to buy his dad a brand new car.
What I’ve found out through posting this is that a lot of people have this dream or have this goal, and my biggest fear was, and I’ve had about four or five people message me that their fear came true, is their parents not being alive to give the gift. What if I had the thought, I had the capabilities financially, to make their dream a reality, but I prolonged it so long and then one day you get the call. They're dead. Then what? [15:03.3]
For a guy like me, straight up, that would eat my fucking soul apart because I knew I wanted to do it, I knew I could do it. I just didn't do it, because I was scared or afraid, or whatever bullshit story I had to create in my head to justify it. But the truth is, deep down, when I looked in that mirror, I would know I fucked that one up and that's something I don't want to ever live with, which is regret. I’ve realized that a lot of people don't want to, but, unfortunately, a lot of people do. Why? Because, again, when you have to make the decision to do it, it's scary. It's overwhelming. But these decisions will free you. As you execute them, you’re getting more confidence, you gain more. It just gives you so much more power to everything else you're doing, and giving is really an amazing thing. [15:57.4]
I’ve given more money, true story, this isn't a brag and I’m not sharing the number, but I’ve given more money this year than I’ve given in the last five years collectively and I’m looking to do a lot more. I’m doing a lot of neat things and working on myself. Again, I’m not saying it's always easy. I’m making big donations when I’ve got a lot of shit I want to buy, a lot of shit I need to buy, a lot of shit, I’m hiring companies and people. I’m not being reckless, by the way, so I’m not saying go out and be reckless.
But these are things I want to share with you guys, real life, the journey of what's going on in my life, and this is a massive win for me. I’m proud of myself and, again, I share this in a document called thought-auditing. If that's something that you guys would like to see, I’m not sure if I’m going to share it publicly because it is a private letter to myself, so there's a lot of vulnerability in there, and I’m not looking to edit it. I’d share it raw. But if that's something that interests you, hit me up in the DM and say, “Thought auditing/Corvette”, so I know that's what it's about, but it's an amazing journey and I even said in the letter to myself, I’m very proud of myself, which I never say. [17:00.4]
I’m proud of myself. I’m excited that I was able to share that experience with my son, my wife, my kids, and as you guys know, I did a show about this. They're all fucking watching, you know what I mean? My kids, my wife. I just want to lead by example. I don't want to talk about it. I don't want to say do as I say, not as I do. I want to be the opposite. I’m too busy fucking doing, I’m not even saying. I’m just showing, and by doing that, you're going to lead the pack.
I want to help these people. I want to help people. I want them to see. I want them to buy my belief. I want them to buy my confidence, right, through seeing me doing, action. The joy on my son's face and his voice, if you hear him in the video, and just seeing what it did. My sister sent me a really cool message. My dad sent me a really cool video that will never be shared. It's private, but a really, really cool video, and there's zero amount of money that would ever change it. That video is so powerful and that's what I did it for, for him. [18:01.7]
But what's cool about giving is you do it for him, but ultimately have to do it for yourself first because you’ve got to give to give, if that makes sense, you’ve got to get yourself to give to them, and it unlocks the doors to a whole nother level.
I just wanted to share this quick moment with you, and if you're sitting there struggling with stuff, keep your feet moving. We're all struggling with bullshit every day. The question is, do you pay attention to it? Do you deal with it or do you avoid it? Growth requires struggle. It's part of the game. No, you're at where you're at for a reason. What you do with it is up to you.
If you do have a dream for your parents or your friends or your cousin or whoever, when does it become a reality? That's the question I challenge you with. Put a date on it. Make it a reality moment, not a fucking dream. Put a timeline on it because I should have done that. That's one thing I didn't do. I’d never put a timeline on the dream. I just said that's a dream. I’m going to buy my dad a dream car one day. One day was Sunday and that day was awesome. It was amazing and it's etched in my brain forever and every fiber of my body, my son, and it's really cool to give something away like that. [19:15.7]
Stay in the game. It's worth it. It's better than the alternative, that's for sure. Today's was a quick show. Appreciate you guys being here. Please, again, if the show made any sense for you and made an impact in any way, please feel free to share it on social. Tag me. Also, please get over to Amazon.com. If you've got the book, MEconomy, leave an amazing five-star review, as well as iTunes. It would mean a lot to me. Let me know you do it and I’ll take care of you.
Appreciate you guys. Let's stay focused and let's go make these dreams come true for all. Have an amazing day, and with that said, make today count. Peace.
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