Hi there. I'm Jill Allen and this is find your fierce, the show designed for women to discover your fierce, unlock and unstoppable mindset. Build unbreakable courage and completely transform how you show up every single day. Each week I will bring ideas, methods and strategies that will inspire you to step into your greatness and live life on purpose. Let's be fit, fierce and unstoppable.
Hey there. Welcome to find your fierce. And I gotta tell you, I'm glad that you guys are here with us today. It makes my heart so happy to know that so many of you are taking the time to plug in and recharge and are hungry when it comes to finding that fire that you have from within. I just absolutely love it. It is so, so good. I tell you, it's funny as I was preparing for today's chat, actually, for whatever reason I was, you know, I think I was putting it off. No, we have a day that has been set. If, you know, for a lack of a better word that I need to get it done by. And here I am like five days late and I have to say, I'm okay with it. And I I'm feeling the sense of calm, not a sense of the shame or the guilt or the anxiety of not keeping up.
(01:23): And that feels like it's just so freeing when you get to that point. But let me tell you, the Jill a year ago would not have been in this situation. Okay. I would not be five days late on a deadline. I may be late picking up my kids up from practice, but I was never late on deadlines or schedules or what needed to get done got done. And actually now that I think about it, not only was I never late on deadlines, I was the one that had everything done. Weeks ahead. I had everything planned to a tee. Everything was on perfect. I was on fire yet here I was this stress ball in the process. And here, here, it was like, what's next? I'm checking things off. Let me get it done. You know, I can manipulate with the best of them. I was thinking that I was doing good.
(02:07): I was maneuvering. I was taking control. I got this. And I hit that part of me quite well. Really, at least I thought I did. But that feeling that I had within where my heart was, trust me, I was feeling the pressure. And that was just like a little over a year ago, even after tons of personal growth, even as a life coach and a mindset coach, I was still feeling, feeling that in my heart and it didn't feel good. So here we are, right. We're heading into a new year, a time where I usually have the years, vision boards created, you know, hung up on the wall. You know, my goal list is a mile long. You know, we're talking about, you know, my dreams, you know, for the upcoming year, you may be usually in that position as well, right at the start of a new year, you got to have the word of the year.
(02:55): I mean, all that new year jazz is going on. And I have to be honest, I haven't done any of that this year. And for a split second, I thought, wait a minute, am I being lazy? Am I settling? Am I dropping the ball? You know, how can I not be mapping out my goals? Like, Oh my gosh, what is going on with me? You know, what does this mean? And then I remembered that my life has taken a massive shift that I'm showing up differently and showing up in a way that is better than anything I could have imagined just a short 12 months ago. Okay. So let me feel yet today, I felt this sense of peace or calm, rest, whatever you want to call it in the midst of all the things I just had to do and had to get done, you know, the way I do things now, or, or how I show up, it's different.
(03:43): And it's a feeling it's hard to put into words, but it's like a place where I can just breathe and take it all in. I, you know, I still have things I got to get done. There are things that I still want to accomplish. There are still the dreams. There are still the deadlines. There's the schedules. There's still all that stuff, but it's different. You know, I still rock out those things, but with a different heart posture, as a matter of fact, I feel like I actually get more done because I'm truly living all with a smile that is actually true. And it's genuine, okay. With joy, with a feeling of peace. And I want to take you on this journey with me know, because I know how it feels to not be in a place where you can just breathe and soak it all in.
(04:24): So back to today's process, instead of stressing about what I was going to share with you, you know, making sure it's all in this perfect and all plan and you know, sometimes maybe a forced conversation or topic, right. Because you're just trying to get it done and check it off your to-do list. You know, I sat down, I turned on my favorite playlist. It's actually the peace album by Bethel. It's so good. But I started journaling and I listened to what was being downloaded in my heart. Something I would have never have done just a short time ago. I would have laughed if someone told me that, Oh, just sit down and listen. That's how your day is going to go. Just sit down and listen and let it all just sink in. If I had a project that needed to be completed, that was not something that I would wanted to listen to as advice.
(05:09): So I get it. If you think I'm on like the crazy train, because here I am now, I'm doing just that. But the word, the word new kept popping up. If we can slow down just a little bit, it's amazing how much you can hear and how your heart just soaks, soaks up the word, but the new N E w okay. It kept showing up. It kept popping up. And I know it was not by coincidence. So think about this. It's a new year. It's a new month. It's a new day. And then it went on to, okay, new eyes to a new vision, to new ears, to a new perspective, you know, to a new lens and a new way of looking at life, new relationships, a new faith, new adventures, new beginnings, a new life, a new heart, a new you. And I heard that the old way of doing things, there is a new way.
(06:07): There is a new way of living. It doesn't have to be go, go, go, hurry up rushing, you know, to get to the next big thing. It doesn't have to be push and push and strive. And where you got to, you know, where your life is so consumed with to-do lists and then everything else fits in around that list. Now I am not in lava land guys. I totally get it. There are things that need to get done and the responsibilities as a wife and a mom and a woman who has a career. So I understand that. I'm not saying the new way is to just vege out and eat Bon bons all day, wandering around aimlessly without direction. I'm not saying that that is the massive shift that needs to take place. What I'm sharing with you. And what I found on my journey is that you can be in the moment, every moment, even when the chaos around you, even when the deadlines are fast, approaching the laundry's piling up the making the dinner, the getting the kids out the door and off to school and all their activities and all that life throws at you.
(07:05): And you can and are able to take that deep breath in and experience this new feeling, a new way of living. I would see people in their element where there is such good fruit. There's so much fruit all around them. Good, good fruit life is good for them. And there's this peace and calm about them. Their smile, again, being genuine, you know them in the moment. And I wanted that. I wanted all that life had to offer. I wanted to live out God's plan for me. And I wanted to have my sanity and actually have a heart that felt at complete peace. I didn't want to trade any of it though. I didn't want to trade anything out. You know, I didn't want to have to give up anything, right. Because I was being selfish. It was like, how do I get that though? I want that to, is it even possible for me?
(07:56): It's like, Joe, you're a mom of five. Why is the doer? The overachiever, the perfectionist that highly driven. Get it done, girl. You can't be all that. And be able to breathe at the same time. You're nuts. That's not the way life works. If I slowed down, then nothing gets done or it won't get done. Right. Right, ladies, I know, I know you probably get that. I need to be the one to take charge. That would mean I would have to give up control. If I wanted to live in a new way, I needed a new way of doing things. I needed that new perspective, a new lens, a new set of eyes to see new things, to lift that fog, to give me clarity, a new set of ears so I can listen in a new way, new beliefs, a new mindset, a new heart, a new heart posture, the new relationships to help me and to mentor me, to guide me.
(08:50): I knew I didn't need the same old new year's resolutions. I wanted total restoration, but I need a new ways of thinking to help create that new beginning, that new way of living that I craved. And if you, any of you are feeling that yucky feeling of the overwhelm and the stress and the anxiety maybe, or you're on a treadmill. No, to nowhere. Maybe you're living under pressure. You know, you feel like something's off that maybe life is a little bit more where you can even take that deep breath in guys. It's a new year. It is a new month and it is a new day. You can have that new beginning, that new way of living. And here's three things I just want to share with you because I think if we can keep it simple. Okay. Cause I don't want us to over-complicate any of this three things.
(09:30): Number one is there is a time where we have to decide how we want to live our life. Yes. God has a plan for you. And I know it's usually not the plan we have or even want in our life. At least we think that way to start off off with, but we all know how his plans work. It's all for the good, but there's a time where we have to decide we have all this free will. That's been given to us. And although God has the ultimate say, we have the say on whether or not we say yes to him. If we decide to say yes to his plans, if we say yes to his will, if we say yes to him first above everything else we say yes to his friendship, his love, his guidance, his peace, his strength has words, his promises.
(10:16): It's kind of like jail. Your ways isn't working. You may want to try my way. Try me. You want to feel different. Try me. You want to live different. Try me. You want peace? Try talking to me. You want freedom? It's me again. He keeps showing up. We want new beginnings. Then we need to decide if we want to invite him into our life guys. He's there. He's just waiting to be asked to come in, take our hand, take the lead and be there for us. Number two, once we decide how we want to live our life, then we have to commit to do it. We can't just say we want it. And then when it gets hard, we give up and try to take control again, stand on our own two feet. The range, even if that's actually, when we need to lean into him, even more guys, it can be hard.
(11:06): I mean the old way of thinking or our old habits or our old way of doing things, they're going to try and take over this new way. They're going to try to sneak back into this new adventure, because life is going to throw us punches. The storms are going to keep popping up. People are going to think we're crazy at first, until they actually begin to see the changes and the transformation in you and you live in a life where they want that piece to, they're probably wondering like you have all this and like, you're not even so calm. You're so laid back. You're so happy. You have so much joy guys. They're going to see that within you. So you may experience some of that insecurity at first, but those roadblocks and those detours guys, that's just part of life. You are going to be attacked.
(11:48): Self-Doubt is going to creep in. You're going to see that part of the old you like for me, the stress ball may appear. It's going to rear its ugly head or it's sometimes easier to slip back into what's comfortable. And we have to say, when that happens, okay, not today. I decided to say yes to the Lord. And he is with me always. We just can't want it. We have to put forth this effort. It's truly about a relationship. We are saying yes to a relationship. Therefore it's a two-way street, so we need to do our part. And so we need to commit. And then number three, okay, you guys, it's pretty simple. We need to choose to commit again. And then we need to recommit again and recommit daily and continue to work on it. Guys. It's not a one-time thing. I'm done. I'm surrender.
(12:37): And I'm a new person. I have a new heart, you know, my home, my heart's filled. And then we go on our way. It doesn't work like that. It is truly a journey. It is a walk. We are going to be tested. We're going to be asked to do things that we don't think that we're qualified for yet. He will equip us. We will be called to rise. We will discover our purpose and we will be encouraged to live it. And it can't just be done in one day. It can't be done with a weekly Sunday church service. It's impossible to get it done with 10 minute daily devotions, which all those things are so, so good. Okay. I had all of those on my to-do lists. Okay. I used to check those off right. To be that good. You know, do what I have to do kind of Christian, but it isn't living.
(13:24): It's about living with him 24 seven with him, right beside you. We want that massive shift. We want that sanity. We want that peace. The calm we want to just breathe. It's about inviting him to be with us at all times to seek him first, to talk with him first, before venting to allow him to lead and us to follow it is giving up that control, asking him for our next steps. And that will require us to recommit to the Lord every day, every moment. Oh my gosh. I can go on with this forever. We will for sure. Pick this up in a later episode. But as we enter this new year, let's pray and reflect on what kind of new you want in your life. What new beginning? What new adventure do you want? That new heart that is full of pure love and that peace that only comes from our creator where you taking that big, deep breath and experience new life.
(14:20): We need to decide what kind of life we want to live. I know for me, when I said yes to the Lord, everything changed. I changed my marriage, my family, my kids, my businesses, my heart, it all changed. And then we got to commit. And then we got to commit again. Every single day lady you are being called to rise. I want to invite you to just Brie sisterhood. It's a 12 month mindset and accountability experience rooted in biblical truth for Christian women like you who are ready to rise up. So head to be fit and fierce.com forward slash just breathe. Or you can check it out on our Jaspreet Facebook group. You can join us there, heads up on the next episode. We're going to chat about whatever comes to my heart that week. I have totally let go of the massive control and over-planning, and I will share it with all my heart that day. Okay. It's been so freeing. So thanks for joining us each and every week. Please subscribe, share this episode, link on your social media. If you thought encouraged or inspired, as we all know someone that can benefit, I would love it. If you would give some feedback and review as well, talk with you next time, beef it be fierce, be unstoppable.
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