Hi there. I'm Jill Allen and this is find your fierce, the show designed for women to discover your fierce, unlock and unstoppable mindset. Build unbreakable courage and completely transform how you show up every single day. Each week I will bring ideas, methods and strategies that will inspire you to step into your greatness and live life on purpose. Let's be fit, fierce and unstoppable.
(00:34): Hey there. Welcome to find your fierce so glad that you are here. If this is your first time plugging in welcome, would love to hear how you found, find your fears today. I always love feedback, and if you're back, that's awesome too. Welcome back. Always a good time. Something that has been on my heart actually for a long time. Now finally deciding that today is the day to dive into it. And it's our worth. How we look at ourselves in the mirror, how we speak to ourselves and the moment that we've allowed to define us and get us on a path that may not be the best path to be on or to be on the path that has ultimately not been created for us, especially when it comes to our body image, our weight, that number on the scale and how we've allowed that to define us and hold us back and define our worth.
(01:18): But let me tell you that can all change right now today. I want to take you back. I had a story here. I was driving back home from a three day retreat that I was blessed to attend. So I had some time in the car all by myself. Super rare, actually had over four hours each way, all by myself. And I was listening to music, listening to all my thoughts, soul searching. And of course, when we think of something, then it leads to something else and then it leads to something else. And then it always, of course, leads back. It does a full circle back to our initial thoughts, right? And my initial thought was that so many women are hurting, like truly hurting when it comes to what they think about themselves or the belief or lack of belief in what they are truly capable of doing and achieving and the insecurities and the body shaming and the self hatred, you know, and the lack of confidence in their value and worth.
(02:13): And I was thinking about all of that because I have been guilty of all that myself. I know we just had family pictures done this past summer, and I was fixated on the dress that I was wearing. I was thinking, why did I wear that dress? My friend told me that I wore the wrong underwear and I was choosing the pictures to frame and to order based on only how I looked, not if my kids were smiling or not, but what I looked like, my image, you know, and we fall back into that. The body shaming or man did this pandemic do a number on my weight. We look for these excuses. I've always been that way. And I gotta tell ya, I gained weight since April. I gained weight since this pandemic. And it started to take a toll on me getting me in a funk back that vicious cycle of playing games with the scale, all the things I coach women up on it not to do, but let me see.
(03:05): I tell ya it was a runaway train. I was trying to figure out why I was back to the scale, even though I know that a hundred percent, it does not matter that there had to be some pivotal moment. When I thought I had to look a certain way or that I had the way this much or, and not this number, that there was a number that made everything okay. Right. I started thinking back to when I was a kid and when I was little, I was like this long legged knock, nice bony giraffe or baby deer. Actually, I even had a nickname Bambi there for a while when I was playing softball and I was super skinny just by genetics. Right? And I had this friend and her parents, they actually called me skinny mini. Okay. Tons and tons of attention of just how thin I was or how fit I was.
(04:00): And as a kid, what I was hearing in my mind, mine was that's a really good thing. Now that same friend, we were complete opposites. She was called thunder thighs, strong legs. I mean, she had massive strong legs. Okay. Very muscular. She was not built like a skinny mini, totally different genetics. But now think about this two young girls both impacted with comparison, the words that were spoken over them, both body image and the perspectives that came along with it, both of these girls were impacted. I was impacted. My friend was impacted. Now my friend, I can only imagine what she was thinking that she's not good enough comparison mode. Look at Jill, you are always big. Why are you like this? Why are you eating again? Your body isn't good enough. And it can go on and on and on. And I'm sure that's just the tip.
(04:54): I'm sure it was even worse than that, of what was going on through her mind. And then you have me, you can't gain weight. You can't get big. And if you do, you're not going to be good enough. Your body's going to be ugly. And what's even worse is when you do just like I did these past few months, look at that cellulite. Look at your rear in that dress. What happened to your six pack? How can you coach others? What's going on? You're not good enough. You're not pretty anymore. You want you, that's what you weigh. And there goes the out of control. Downward spiral, both get fixated on things that take us down, hold us back and prevents us from doing what we are called to do. And I had to go back to that moment, realize the impact. How do to identify that strong hold, that belief and that pivotal moment.
(05:39): And I'm encouraging you to do the same, do some soul searching. When was that moment that you started shaming your body, nitpicking, every little thing, becoming so critical with your arms, your belly, your thighs, even your ankles, your neck, your face, that back area, right beneath your bra. When did you start hating your body and how is it negatively impacting you? Has it consumed you? How many weight loss programs have you tried your diets, the workout programs, just so you can punish yourself. How many pictures do you skip or do you hide behind people? Do you hide in stretch pants and a sweat shirt? And just say that you really like comfy clothes, or is it something more than that? Identify that moment, that your weight and that number on the scale wrapped around you and began suffocating you and taking over all your thoughts, impacting every decision that you make.
(06:32): And I hope you journal it. All I know is that it will take some quiet soul searching facing some of those demons to discover that one little moment. That shifted everything. Okay. So you got it. Now, what you discovered that kickstart or what kickstarted all of this craziness, you know, now we need to not just cut that branch off. We can't just mask it. We can't just start hacking those branches and think it's all going to be good to go. We actually need to get to the root of it. We need to dig it up. We need to go so deep and rip it up and out. This is like a journey of self awareness, right? We can keep talking about your issue with your body, your weight, your clothes, not fitting. We can take a nutrition course. We can purchase a meal plan. We can start training for 5k.
(07:20): And it may work for a little bit, a few months. A few months may go by and you're back in that same vicious cycle, going back around the same mountain. And if we go for those branches, guys, the bridges are going to ultimately grow back. But if we attack the root system, if we can get to the root of the problem question is why don't we just do that? Why haven't we done that yet? And it's probably because we can't see it. We can't see below the surface. What's feeding it. And I don't just want to teach you how to thrive that won't work long term might work for a few days, but I want us, I want all of us to be transformed from within. So I want you to think about this. Like think of a tree, a tree that's just absolutely thriving.
(08:05): A tree that feels worthy. A tree that feels loved accepted a tree that is producing this amazing, gorgeous fruit. But what comes out of the tree is based on the root system. So I want you to go from a tree. That's dying a tree that's just merely surviving a tree. That's just hanging on to a tree. That's thriving. You might have been believing that you're not good enough that you're not worthy enough, that you don't have what it takes. And here's the thing, the enemy. And I know we talked about this in prior episodes. So I want you guys to go back and refresh, or if you haven't listened in on them, go back and listen to those episodes. But we know that the enemy always rides in on truth. He wants you to have doubt. He wants you to have insecurities to hold you back.
(09:01): He doesn't want you to thrive. Guys. He's going to creep in and he's going to tell you that you don't have what it takes to lose weight. That dress looks horrible on you. That you're not pretty go hide in the back row of the family photo. You can't work out. You don't have time. There's no way that you can keep up with the healthy, nutritious lifestyle. You're too tired. You're too old. You've tried that before you failed. Remember you gained weight. You're not a good coach. You're not good enough. Now what guys he's tossing the bait out to you. And he's relying on your strongholds. The belief that is so strong, that is holding you back from experiencing the truth. He may write in on the truth, but it's not the truth. If you get what I'm saying, we need to identify these lies that you've been believing.
(09:54): You know, you've identified that moment when you were a child, right? And you're tearing up that root system. And I want you to start watering a new root system. One that is filled with love speaking as to why you are so special, why you are capable, why you are worthy, why you are not alone. I want us to start watering that tree. Okay. And I have to tell you, and I've never really went too much into our fit and fit fear, sisterhood. And I don't know why as I'm so passionate about this. And I feel like I'm doing you a disservice, you know, because we are really flipping the script here. When it comes to working out in the weight loss journey in our sisterhood, you know, we're basically creating a movement really. And I want to share a little bit about it on here now, as I think it is so much connected to what we talked about today.
(10:45): And I started fit and fierce because I knew I was about three years ago. I knew how so many of us women, we were looking for more, we're all super busy. I don't have to go into, you know, telling you all the things that you do and the things that you have on your plate each day. I know you totally get it, but I wanted a place where women can come together short 20 minute at home workouts where we stretch ourselves. And then we stretch ourselves a little bit more yet, always focusing on a you versus you mentality, focusing on our identity, focusing on you, who you truly are, your most truest, most authentic, most vulnerable identity, taking women on a fitness journey. And I always wanted it to be simple. I wanted a simple process, not easy but simple. And I want it to be sustainable where it helps women discover who they truly are for the long run, right?
(11:41): So we show up every day we love on ourselves. We lift women up, we get stronger, we become more fit. We become more fierce every day. And I know it's changing lives. And the breakthroughs that are being made here are absolutely amazing. I actually just received a text yesterday. Let me, let me find it here. Okay. Said I just did the light series leg workout. I know it's only 10 minutes, but like you said, you got to start somewhere. You truly, I believe are the answer to my prayer last week when I asked God to show me where I could succeed, I'm sick of starting and quitting. And I refuse to let that happen now. Thank you again for doing what you do and for encouraging me nice. I love this as no matter where you are or where we all are on the journey.
(12:30): This sisterhood can be for so many, whether you're just getting started or you need to kick it up a notch, or if you're advanced and you just want quality without spending hours in the gym, more time with your family, you know, making this a lifestyle while all being aligned. Okay. And that's the key word here aligned with who you truly are. I just love it. Love it, love it. So let's recap here. One, we need to take a look back at when we were a child and the moment that the body shaming began, we need to get real here. We need to dig deep. Number two, we're going to then going to take those strongholds and we're going to tear them out by the roots. And we're going to begin to break those chains. We're going to begin to thrive and to start to water, new roots with love, worthiness competence, and acceptance, and three, ask yourself if you need to flip the script, when it comes to the weight loss journey and truly want a path that is sustainable and full of grace and not sure if you've heard or not, but are fit and fair.
(13:30): Sisterhood is just $20 a month right now. Crazy. I know. So if you're looking to focus on yourself and need some extra support and accountability from women who know what it's like to juggle a crazy busy life head on over to be fit and fierce.com and become unstoppable with us, or if you want to join a sisterhood dedicated to growing your faith joint, our Jaspreet Facebook group heads up on the next episode, I'm working on a special guest. So come back next week. You're going to want to hear her. Thanks so much for joining me today. Please subscribe, share this episode, link on your social media. As we all know, someone that could benefit, and I would love it. If you would give some feedback and a review as well, talk with you next time. Be fit, be fierce, be unstoppable.
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