Welcome to the Sip and Soul Podcast. My name's Angie Leitnaker - transformational coach, self development junkie, network marketing advocate. For over a decade I've been obsessed with the power of human potential and realize that the recipe is the same whether you're 4 or 104. In this show you'll learn the recipe for living your best life through positive vibes and a soulful tribe. So grab a cup, let's fill yours up.
Hi everybody. Welcome to another episode of sip Ansul. And today let's talk about the soul part. My dear friend, Brit, Brittany. I know you guys have heard me talk about her before we've had her on this podcast before, but she has such an amazing spirit. And as we've talked about in sip and soul, it's not always rainbows and butterflies. Sometimes life does knock us down. Sometimes we might the like Rocky, you know, in the movie, Rocky, but the good news is anytime we can choose to reinvent ourselves.
(00:57): And that's what this podcast is really going to be about. This is for anybody who may be feeling defeated, feeling like giving up, feeling like you are on your knees and don't know what to do, then you're going to want to tune in. So welcome, Brett. I thank you so much. I love anytime you have me here, I love it so much. And I'm so grateful to be part of not only your podcast, but your life. And I just, I'm so grateful that you're sharing it with me. It is truly the greatest honor on the planet to get to be your friend and to see all that you've gone through. And you see, you hear all the time. People will say like life circumstances can make you better or better. And I feel you are the perfect representation of you allowed it to make you better. And would you share with us, it's a very vulnerable discussion, but I still appreciate, she said I'm an open book, ask anything, nothing is off limits. So here we go, listen, I am all about being open and raw because I know that somebody out there is going to hear this. And they've probably either felt the same way or maybe are currently feeling the same way. And I just want people to know that there is a rainbow at the, at the end or whatever the saying things, which you know, that you really do reinvent.
(02:15): So essentially I was in a happy and I'm using air quotes. I thought it was a happy marriage. And I got my world rocked. I got my world literally thrown in my face. It was a typical weekend. And my husband at the time he came home and he just said, I don't think I want to do this anymore. And I was like, Oh, what? I have no idea. He's like be married. And I was like, Oh shit. And I don't know how you feel about cussing on this. But there was a lot of cuss words and it was anger immediately. It's just anger, anger, anger. Like, how could you do this to me? And I immediately fell into victim mode, right? Because it was either survive or don't. And so those are my two options and four, and I will tell you, it's like fall to the ground, punch you in your stomach hurt and his pain.
(03:07): And it's, when am I going to get over this? And you always throwing timelines at yourself. Like, how am I going to get there? When is it going to feel better? What day am I going to wake up? And I'll be brand new, but it's not. It doesn't happen overnight. And you have to do a lot of soul searching. You have to do a lot of crying. You have to be alone a lot. And that's when it got really hard is when you're alone. And then at the time, you know, as well as anyone, I was pushing people away because why would I let them in I'm hurt and I don't want to get hurt again. And so you feel very vulnerable. You feel very alone and that's when you just kind of have to fall to the ground and say, okay, where do I go from here?
(03:48): And that's when you get the wake up call, like life is meant to be lived and love exists. And it's real. And you drank the wine and you cussed the cuss words and you find new hobbies and you start finding yourself again. And then one day, and I will tell you one day you just wake up and you say, who am I? Okay. And that's when I had to, what do they call it? They come in to do like that meeting was myself. And I'm like, who am I? Who do I want to be? And what music do I want to show the world? And I am so lucky that I had not only you as a best friend, but I had a community of the people that we've brought into our lives as a community. And I have girlfriends, they were like, go, we just been waiting for you.
(04:36): Yeah. So, you know, it is the hard, hard, hard, and then it's the good, so good. And I just can not wait for everyone that might be going through this journey and know that I can't tell you, I can't tell you all the cliches. I can't put emphasis that it will get better, but just know that there's, it will get better and you just have to go through it. And when we always say, you have to feel it, you have to go through it to grow through it. And to me, that is just the biggest awakening is knowing like, Hey, I F and I'm okay. And actually life is a lot freaking better now. And so it's just, it's just, the contrast is amazing to see. Well, gosh, it's so as you know, to be a friend through this, so you had done years of personal development before this rock your world.
(05:30): And this is why we say all the time, there are things inside of your circle of influence that you can, you know, change and you can quote unquote control or allow. But then there are things outside that you literally had, you know, the wind was knocked out from underneath you, for sure. But there were a couple of things through the journey that I remember you saying, I just have to practice. That's all the things I know. I know all the things I know the psychology. I think what I love to see so much. It's we say this all the time, you can't spiritually bypass. You went into wake up and it'd be like, poof, better, but that's not the way it works. And people talk so much about the growth journey, the spiritual awakening, but what they don't talk about. As a lot of times, they'll say, you know what storm like going through it, like it is, you are getting beat up and you are, you're grown, it's rocked. And it's through that. The growing through it, they going through it. That actually makes life so much better.
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(06:57): I remember one day looking at you. It's going to make me cry, but you were hurting so bad that you're like, I still still believe in love. I still believe in marriage. I still talk a little bit about that. Because as humans, we tend to want to armor, like if the wind gets knocked out from us, we want to like put the walls up. Not let love in, not it love out nothing. Talk a little bit about that. Well, I think you have to kind of look back at the first days of a marriage and the first months and the first years and know that it was good. There were parts that were good. Okay. And ended badly. And it hurt really freaking bad. But you know, it's like you get in what you put out. And if I focused on everything that was bad or, you know, and I will tell you, you go through it during that shit storm, you were talking about, you're actually going, you're replaying all the things you could have done wrong.
(07:47): And all of the things you could've done different, where was the final straw? What was it that I did? And you try to put it on yourself and then you just realize, you know what, sometimes there are bigger things that are just looking out for you. And it's just putting a little, maybe a little bit of an obstacle in the way for you to getting something really great. I've seen marriages work. I've seen marriages fail. I've been part of both, right? I've been married one time as part of both. Yeah. I was part of a marriage that was going very well. I was. And then, you know, something happened and it wasn't necessarily me. Right. And I had, that was the hardest thing to get over. Like girl is not you, not all the time is at you. And I think when you were talking about how, you know, we've been doing years of self development.
(08:36): Yes. Had I not have the tools, maybe I wouldn't have come to that conclusion as soon, but I knew that there were things that I could have changed and definitely done a little differently. And I probably hurt him too. I understand that now. But when you're feeling the pain of it, you're like, Hey, it's all your fault. You know? And what I knew is that hate doesn't have a place in my life. You know, it's just sour energy. I don't have time for it and not to be like, sassy about it, but we don't have to, we ain't, nobody got time for it, you know, by me hating or not liking or disliking or blaming. That's just me drinking the poison and expecting him to be hurt by that. So we say that a million times, and I've heard it a million times, but you don't actually know until, you know, and once you know, you can't ever unknow it and that's what's so important.
(09:27): And just knowing that I wish him, well, I wish him all the good things in life. I hope he understands what happiness is and that he can get that and chase it down in his life. But what I know from being away from him is that my happiness was put on hold for him and he didn't allow me to grow. And sometimes I felt like I was being pushed down and in, you know, in endeavors that I wanted to really go hard at it wasn't mean I wasn't getting the support that I deserved. And so it didn't make me question and second guess my goals. And then it was like, moving out.
(10:02): It's not that important. Maybe I'll just do it another time,
(10:05): But you know what? Life's freaking short. I actually don't get a second chance sometimes. Yeah. So the clarity that has come since then is that I now have a partner in my life who I'm obsessed with. Like, [inaudible] all those wishes that you wanted. He fulfills everything. You talk about checking boxes. Yeah. I'm okay with it. Like, yes, please. Can I have more? He's totally, I'm totally in a better place. And I am just, I am finally receiving the love that I've always deserved and I'm actually calling myself out on it. Are you getting what you deserve? Yes. Okay. Then keep going. If I'm not in any area of my life, now I'm able to at least take a step back, take a look and see like, okay, is this serving you? Okay. Then make a change or go harder. We talked about that today while we were running.
(10:58): So we took a run today and I was like, okay, if you were to 10 X your life, tell me all the areas that are already like, you feel are 10 X. And she's like zero seconds later. She's like my love. And so to get to see you go from, you know, you, you had fallen flat on your face for a minute, but to see you get back up and you'd get up stronger and love harder and love more and be more fulfilled and chase your dreams more like a lot of that wouldn't happen. A lot of our greatest hardships actually generate the greatest victories, the greatest fulfillment in our lives. And so had that not happened, maybe you wouldn't have this hunger for life. Absolutely. I mean, the only thing that comes to my mind right now is CRS song level up level, up level.
(11:45): Like that's just what we're doing. And not a day goes by now where I don't express my gratitude for my partner that I do have in my life. And he knows when he goes to sleep at night, that I'm grateful for him. And he shares in that gratitude. And to have someone meet you where you are and let the light get in and totally down for that. Yes. Oh, Brit. So if you are asking for permission to level up, go ahead and sing level up, little up, live up. I don't know that it sounds exactly like that, but if you are looking for permission to reinvent yourself, to saddle up your bootstraps, even if you have gone through really hard stuff, consider this your permission. And we have a community here, we have a tribe, we have a membership, we have so many different things available for you.
(12:35): Brittany is also available to help you level up through her coaching and her very simplified de-cluttering minimalists journey. So if at any capacity you're like, all right, I'm ready. Game change. Yeah. Well, and I will just, she doesn't pay me to say these things, but shameless plug here, the membership has completely changed my outlook on things. And it's really just given me that accountability and that extra little push that I need every month. Plus I get to see your beautiful face on, on the computer and you're coaching me through life. So you're always saying exactly what I need to hear. So teamwork makes the dream work. Please write friends. Well, we hope you enjoyed this podcast. Please feel free to check Brit out. It's Brittany Barry. And we'll talk to you soon. Bye guys,
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