Welcome to the Sip and Soul Podcast. My name's Angie Leitnaker - transformational coach, self development junkie, network marketing advocate. For over a decade I've been obsessed with the power of human potential and realize that the recipe is the same whether you're 4 or 104. In this show you'll learn the recipe for living your best life through positive vibes and a soulful tribe. So grab a cup, let's fill yours up.
Hi everyone. So I'm really excited to discuss a topic with you today. Actually, I had zero intentions of speaking on, you know, how the universe sometimes gets, or I had two opportunities and discussions today pointing to the same direction and have a great conversation that I think now is the perfect time to be having. So the topic is on spiritual bypass and the reason this has shown up I think is because right now we're giving it a beautiful opportunity to really look within ourselves, look within our souls.
(01:04): And there was a client that I was having a conversation with today. And she's, you know, I feel like this whole situation is allowing me an opportunity to get to know me. I've been divorced for years. And I realized that there were so many things that I never processed. I never looked at them. I never looked within my soul and saw all those places that I was not living fully or the places that I was still triggered or hurting. And, you know, then I was speaking to a gentleman who said that he was putting his dog down and that he was still going to work the next day. You know what? You can take some time to grieve and he's like, no, no, it's fine. It's fine. I'll work. And it really got me reflecting on how I feel like maybe we were all in second grade or first grade, and there was this class on how to not feel emotions.
(02:02): And that was the one day we all took notes. And I think we go through life trying to armor up and pretend that we don't have human emotions, but it's not okay to feel sad or to feel angry or to just simply be a human. And I feel like that's one of the things in our retreats that we have the opportunity to see that it's okay. It's okay to feel seen and heard. It's okay to have pain. It's okay to have a past and you can be loved and lovable and worthy and enough anyway. And there are actually things that you can do to integrate into your everyday life to allow you to process those emotions. And so that's what I really wanted to invite you to reveal today is that there are things that you can begin to do. Even if you've spent a day armoring up, there are things that you can do today to start taking those steps, to living a life where you actually welcome the human experience.
(03:09): And that's how we can actually allow those things to process through us. So here are a few tips that I had for you too, to look into. So one is to just invite yourself to be human it's okay. There are human conditions that you're a spiritual being, having a human experience. And when we all have it all figured out, it's going to be time to go back to all, but for the time being we're here, we get to experience all of it. And a lot of times it's the hardships and the contrast that actually make us appreciate the goodness that this life has to offer. So invite yourself the opportunity to be able to experience all of those emotions and know that it's all part of it. It's all part of the whole grand divine vessel of this life. Number two is to call deep on your faith, whatever that looks like to you.
(04:05): And we've talked about this before, but regardless of what your faith is, you have to believe that you were created for purpose, with purpose and on purpose. You are not created to just wake up, pay a few bills, work, trade some dollars for hours, make a few friends, and then that's it. You were created to reveal the greatness, their gifts, their talents. There are things inside of you that only you can bring to this world. So really called deep on your faith and know that this is all divine, that you are okay, that you are held, that you are supported all the time and every asset of your life. So regardless of what you're going through, this is a great time to call deep on your face.
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(05:24): And then number three, it goes along the same lines, but how are you filling yourself in four facets? First of all, spiritually, how are you feeding yourself spiritually? How are you feeding yourself physically? How are you feeding yourself mentally? And how are you feeding yourself emotionally? And, you know, I really love this story and I share it often, but my mom had gone to a funeral years ago. This was even before our personal development journey even was beginning. And there was this gentleman at this funeral. He was speaking on behalf of his best friend who made a loss and looking at this gentleman, you would never know he had been through hardships, but we knew, we knew that he had really, he'd gone through so many difficult things. He had stood up to speak on behalf of so many people that he had lost. And yet he had this centered, grounded, balanced, no, there was something that he had figured out and my mom went up to him and she was like, I just, I have to know.
(06:30): I know that things have not always been easy for you, but how are you like this? How are you so grounded? How are you able to maintain all of these storms that you're going through? And he said, you know, I picture myself like a four legged chair. And in order to be able to sit solid on that chair, I each one of those legs, physical, spiritual, mental, and emotional has to be as strong as possible. And the little things that I do every single day to strengthen each of those legs allows me to be able to sit comfortably, even when things are shaken, even when the storms come, even when there are tornadoes and hurricanes or whatever, I know that I can be solid. And so going back to that, like spirituality, it's like, okay, what are you doing to strengthen that muscle? And then what are you doing to strengthen?
(07:20): You were physical muscles and your emotional muscles and your mental muscles on the daily. So I invite you in my membership program. We talk a lot about this, but I really invite you to start embodying, what can I do today? Even if it's five minutes of meditation or it's five minutes of devotion where it's five minutes of exercising or it's five minutes of journaling or something, do something every single day. And there's a book called the compound effect. And that's basically what it is. Sometimes we think we need to do these big grandiose things. But a lot of times it's just those little things over and over and over and over, they compound, they add up and they create big, massive change. So pop over to our membership program. If you want to learn more about that, we, we, don't pretty far into that. And then the last one is, allow yourself to feel it, to heal it.
(08:12): And a lot of us are trained growing up. It's like, shake it off tiger, or, you know, don't cry or in, so we spend a lifetime trying to pretend like our paints aren't in there. And what we really invite you to do is be okay with feeling it. It has something to tell you a lot of times, it's just a fear saying, you know, telling you something. But I invite you to really like when you're feeling a moment of grief or you're going through a hard time in your life, put your hands on your heart, like read into it, ask him what is there to tell you. A lot of times our deepest wisdom comes from our greatest pains and challenges, or we always say, there's a message in the mess. There's something in this. That's going to help you to learn, to grow, to heal, to evolve.
(09:01): So sit with it. We say, setting us up. Sometimes it's okay to sit in the suck and wait. They'll notice is what we resist persists. So if you have a negative emotion and you're like, maybe you guys can relate to this. I bet you can. If you're human, but sometimes we'll have a thought one provoking thought that generates a negative emotion within us. And so then we get a lot of momentum going in that emotion. We're like, Oh my gosh, I don't like the thought, the thought that I keep thinking, and now it's generating feelings within us. And those feelings start snowballing. And suddenly we're just, we are in this huge state of anxiety. We say when we project fear on the future it's anxiety. And when we project our fear on the past it's depression. And so if we can learn to be present, to just sit with it, to see what it has to say to look at it, it doesn't hold as much power.
(09:56): So I invite you the next time. And this might sound a little crazy if it's not something that you have embodied before, but I invite you to do this the next time you're feeling a negative emotion. And so, you know, when I first started studying personal development, you know, 12 years ago, I was so confused because the majority of what I learned about with like rainbows and butterflies, positive mindset say affirmations, fake it till you make it. And I felt like there's something missing because what do we do when we're humans with real life situations or circumstances, and how are we helping our children to deal with life? If it's just like, think happy thoughts. It's like, well, what happens when they have real anxiety or stress or pain? So I feel like this is a huge invitation for all of us during this time to say where inside of me can I learn?
(10:56): And I grow and I heal and I evolve and then we can teach the next generations to do the same. So no spiritual bypass, still affirmations and positive psychology. And all of those things are great, but I invite you to learn, to feel it, to heal it. And then lastly, the very last tip is to know that you don't have to adult alone. So reach out if there's something that you need support. And that is why our community is here. There are so many amazing healers. There are so many coaches and people out there that have the capacity to pull you out of the muck with you. So don't feel like you're alone in this. And I look forward to chatting with you. Let me know how this supports you. If there's something that shows up for you, or if you were able to find some value. And I look forward to connecting in the future, all the best guys,
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