Most high achievers are being driven by the absolute worst source of fuel: Fear, guilt, shame, and insecurities.
These traps are alluring because they’re actually effective routes to short-term success.… READ MORE
Many leaders are driven by an insidious fear that tells them their sense of self-worth depends on their ability to protect their mask. But your mask is just an outdated story your subconscious created, and protecting this mask can only drive a wedge between you and your spouse, your kids, and your team.… READ MORE
The “right to exist” is a common myth used to justify aggression, destruction, and death. But states aren’t people. Structures rise and fall all the time. And using this argument to justify the actions of a state is misleading at best, and downright evil at worst.… READ MORE
The trickiest part about healing your inner world is learning to figure out the difference between self-help schticks and true healing. They are often confused with each other – especially by high achievers.… READ MORE
Many high achievers treat vulnerability as if it’s a four-letter word. And it’s easy to understand why: they’ve been told leaders must keep their emotions in check, and be level-headed and strong in the face of challenges.… READ MORE
Almost everything you’ve learned about emotional “strength” is not only a flat-out lie, but completely backwards. Toughing it out, staying in control, never letting others see you sweat – these aren’t signs of emotional strength, but emotional blindness.… READ MORE
Let’s stop pretending this is just a problem for soldiers and politicians.
The “human shields excuse” isn’t just some abstract wartime tactic—it’s the same twisted reasoning people use every day to justify hurting others, dodging accountability, or compromising their integrity.… READ MORE
Too many people are numb to life, unable to enjoy themselves and their relationships even if they’ve achieved great things.
The real problem isn’t intelligence, skill, or drive. It’s a failure to process emotions properly because they’ve lost the ability to use their “heart-mind.” Sadly, most of us have been subtly conditioned to not even know we’re approaching this all wrong.… READ MORE
The Achiever’s Curse is a deadly one. It starts subtle at first. But left unchecked long enough, it seeps into every aspect of your life, stealing joy and fulfillment every step of the way. Too many achievers don’t realize this insidious curse until they feel the intense pangs of regret on their deathbed.… READ MORE
Perhaps the most important skill an intelligent person can learn is the Dao of Decision Making.
Making tough, high-stakes decisions doesn’t come naturally to high achievers because they’ve been fooled into valuing their intelligence more than their emotions.… READ MORE
