Most people who struggle with connection chalk it up to a personality trait. They think their personality, which benefits them in other areas, just makes connection harder for them.
But this is actually a defense mechanism in disguise, created by a protective part of you that was created by an old wound.… READ MORE
Successful high achievers think they can always rely on themselves more than on other people. This idea helped fuel their success.
But it’s also why their success isn’t fulfilling, and why they feel on the verge of burnout.… READ MORE
If you’re a high achiever, you probably have a tendency to prioritize work above all else. Results are the most important thing to you. And all the other stuff—like deep relationships that offer true connection—are treated as “nice to haves.”
But this is perhaps the biggest tragedy a high achiever could face.… READ MORE
Most people chalk up their attraction problems to external sources: Maybe they think they need better strategies and skills. Or they believe that dating apps are against them. Or maybe it’s just that they’re unlucky.… READ MORE
As a former player myself, I know first-hand how crushing the “Grandiosity-Shame Cycle” is. Almost all players fall into this psychological trap that only leads to rage, doubt, depression, and despair.… READ MORE
Men who have a desire to improve at dating often fall into the trap of tactics. And they fundamentally believe that their lack of success is not because of them, but because of the modern dating world.
So they seek to “optimize” individual tactics involved in modern dating—fixing their profile on dating apps, becoming more successful in their career, hitting the gym and getting a six-pack—without ever confronting the real root cause of their dating failures:
Themselves!… READ MORE
Does your relationship feel like it’s dying a slow death? The passion is gone. The original spark has been extinguished. And resentment for your partner may even be surfacing.
Here’s the truth: This is a “stress test” almost all relationships go through.… READ MORE
When you want to become more successful in business, relationships, or life, most people focus on tactics, strategies, and skills.
But there’s a bigger obstacle to your success than your lack of tactics, strategies, and skills… In fact, without first addressing this obstacle, success will never come easy, no matter how hard you keep pushing.… READ MORE
Question:
Have you ever reached a high point in life (a major win, a big breakthrough, or a massive milestone)… only to feel like the rug’s been pulled from underneath you?
Well, I have good news and bad news:
If you find yourself second guessing yourself, procrastinating, picking fights with loved ones, or just a sinking, uneasy feeling that shows up whenever an opportunity knocks on your door, you might be going through the “Upper Limit Problem.”
The “Upper Limit Problem” happens when emotional energies from your childhood (and sometimes, from your parents’, grandparents’, and even ancestors’ childhoods) creates a heavy cloud over your emotional mind.… READ MORE
When your team, family, and friends rely on you for everything, and you don’t know how to say no, then you’re on a path of self-destruction.
Why?
Because an inability to set boundaries and assert yourself stems from toxic shame you picked up at some point in your life.… READ MORE
