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Are you a prisoner to the whims of your emotions?

Most people are.


They struggle with cutting through the clutter of their emotions. Instead of taking action to change their emotions to a better state, they sit and dwell about what they’re feeling.

But it’s easier to change your emotional state than you think. Because your emotions are usually wearing a mask — meaning they’re not real emotions.

In this episode, I’m sharing with you how to see through the 5 masks of emotion so you can take charge of your emotions and celebrate more freedom in your life.

Here Are The Show Highlights:

  • The surprising way your thoughts alter your body’s chemistry (7:00)
  • How to finally stop being held hostage by your emotions (9:50)
  • The trick for completely changing your life by doing this simple and mundane task (22:03)
  • Why your emotional state isn’t due to any deep-rooted issue most of the time (24:09)
  • Focus on these tiny shifts when you’re feeling down and you’ll be amazed by how much impact they make on your emotional state (24:44)

If you want to radically change how much control you have over your emotions in as little as 20 days, you can go to https://thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and sign up for the Choose Your Own Emotion course.

If you or somebody you know is looking to drop the ‘F’ Bomb of freedom in your life and break free from addiction, depression, anxiety or anything that’s making you feel flat-out stuck, head over to www.liberateaman.com and book a call where we can look at your unique situation and give you the roadmap you’ve been missing.

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It's time to rip the cover off what really works to ditch addiction, depression, anger, anxiety, and all other kinds of human suffering. No, not sobriety. We're talking the F-word here: Freedom. We'll share, straight from the trenches, what we have learned from leaving our own addictions behind, and coaching hundreds of others to do the same—and since it's such a heavy topic, we might as well have a good time while we're at it. [00:27.9]

Bob: All right, welcome back guys today we get to talk about something that I've created. There's really nobody else in the world that's created it and this is specifically designed to help you cut through the clutter in your emotional state in life and see what's really going on so that you can actually solve the issue and choose something different. Most of the time people are like, well, when I have a problem like we talked about last week, I need this solution, right? But the reality is most of the time people scrambling for answers are people who are blind to what's really in front of them. And usually what I've found in my life is that if I simply stop and just look, not looking for something, but simply looking and start to gather the information that's around whatever's there, usually the answer pops up very, very clearly. And it comes from seeing clearly it doesn't come from devising some grand scheme most of the time. [01:26.6]

Today we're going to talk about the five masks of emotion, right? The five key drivers, or you might call them triggers of what we call emotion. Now, this might be a two parter because we have to define emotion in a certain way in order to make this make sense for you. And so look forward to that cause we're going to go deep and wide. And by the time we're done both this week and next, you're going to have a very different look on what emotions are. You're gonna have a very different sense of what's really going on inside you when you're having a feeling or an emotion. And with that very, very particular sense, you will find a certain level of freedom to be able to make a decision and act that you may have never had before because no one had ever stopped and helped you understand emotion at a deeper level. [02:13.5]

Now remember a couple of weeks ago we talked about definitions and we talked about my piano story and the guy, the Zen monk with the stick, right? So go check that one out. The name of the episode is ‘When a stick is not as stick’, and there we talked about my teacher who, who said that somebody really doesn't understand something until they've been able to define it 10 ways and has really tested it. Now 10 is an arbitrary number, maybe five ways would do, maybe 11 would do you know, like it's up to you. However more many more different possible angles you can see something with the greater your ability to understand that thing because it's like looking at a diamond. If I only look from one angle, then that's all I understand about that diamond. Doesn't matter how focused I am or anything else, but shifting my position on it just a little bit to change your position on something. We even have that phrase in English, which means I see it differently now, right? [03:08.9]

We have that phrase in English too— my viewpoint has changed. What the same thing has happened. We are changing perspective. We're walking around the diamond and looking at it from all possible different angles so that so as to have a fuller understanding of what that thing is based on whatever we can perceive about it. And, and in fact Hebrew scripture is written a lot this way. A lot of the parallelism and Hebrew scripture is written this way, because how do you convey something to somebody else? Oh, you give them an analogy and then you describe it physically and then you do this and then you do that. How many different ways can you describe something? Today our job is to help you walk around emotion a bit. I'm going to define it one particular way to help you understand these five masks of emotion. [03:53.5]

So I'm going to help you understand it one particular way. But before we do that, I want you to note something. Let's come up with a few different definitions and there's a ton that I've considered over time, but let's look at them and see their use really quickly. One definition, typical definition might be— the way I feel about stuff, right? Another definition is people would define it as a sadness or anger and they would start listing emotions, right? Another definition of emotion is a state of being right? Another definition emotion is energy in motion. You may have heard some of these out there in the world, right? And what we want to do today is give you a definition or a way to look at emotion. This is one way to look at it. It's not the only way to look at it. Nothing I do is the only way to look at things. [04:40.9]

But I am hoping to shed light from a perspective that you may not have considered before. So I want you to consider emotion as this. When you're having an emotion, what's really going on is if you were asleep and not dreaming, you wouldn't be having emotions. One, you wouldn't be conscious, so you wouldn't even know if you did have them. So how can you say you've had an emotion if you didn't? So obviously consciousness is involved here. Two, two people can have different emotions about the same thing. So it's not the thing itself, right? The cause of your emotions is not the thing itself two people like food in a different way, two people like ballet in a different way, My wife and I. Two people, like all kinds of different things, different ways, right? One person prefers it one way. One person prefers it, not at all. [05:27.4]

Another person prefers it another way and so on and so forth down the line. We have different feelings about things, so it's obviously not the thing. So we're conscious and it's not anything outside of us because if it were, then you would have that emotion every time that thing outside of you showed up. And every other person on the planet, every other human being would also have that emotion. Every other time that thing showed up. And that just doesn't happen is, I'm sorry it doesn't happen. You don't even have the same emotion about the same thing over time. So it's not even like, Oh well even in my life, well no, I always feel this way. Do you really? I mean if you really look at it over history, I'm guaranteeing that your emotions have changed about things. So we're conscious it's not anything outside of us that means it's something inside of us. [06:13.7]

What happens, some event happens and we have a thought or feeling about it. Now the thought is an electricity, right? A certain run through of the synapses in the brain. If you stick your finger in the light socket, what's going to happen? Bzzzzz….Tension patterns, right? Tension patterns are gonna affect your posture. They're going to affect your breathing and they're going to affect your ability to move. They're going to affect your circulation. And also with this, that electricity is transmitted through things that are called neuro-transmitters. So neuro-transmitters are a hodgepodge of chemicals that are created and made and secreted inside the brain in order to transmit the information from one neuron to another neuron, which means that every thought you have is creating all of these microscopic and macroscopic changes in your body on a chemical level level, on a mechanical level, on a respiratory level, on a circulatory level. [07:13.5]

In every possible way, it's shifting your body, your body, how you feel right now is how your mind thinks and vice versa. How your mind thinks is how your body's holding itself. And we may try to pretend and we may say, no, no, no, I got to look calm and confident. But you cannot suppress it. You cannot. It is visible to those who know what they're looking for or those who are really aware and perceptive. So we have this going on. And an emotion is when you have one of those things happen and you're mulling it over and then you have this feeling, this chemical state that starts to show up in you, right? A certain feeling in your body. How do you get feelings in your body? Well, you get nausea if we have substances go in there and stuff will get into that. But ultimately what experiencing, what you're describing as an emotion, one way to look at it is simply a chemical bioelectrical, kinetical, kinetic, mechanical, circulatory, respiratory state inside of your system. [08:14.0]

And that's all it is. When we say, Oh, I'm angry. If you ask yourself this question, Hmm, how would you know a person is angry? There's two ways that I could think of that both, that people might respond. One is, well, they're standing like this and their jaws clenched in their freezer and they're breathing like this and their face is red. That is a physical state. How else would you know a person is angry? Well, they walked in the room and the temperature in the room dropped about 400 degrees, and that's a perception you're having there. There's some kind of emanation coming from them. And coupled with that is the weather, right? The weather around their little bitty body is like invading the room, they're having a little bit of a tsunami and you're the wind, right? And on top of that you would see there the way they're moving, the way they're breathing, their balance, their posture, everything has changed. [09:04.5]

So what we're dealing with with emotion is particularly a chemical and electrical state within the body that's affecting all of the rest of the body. Understanding that now we've got to go look at, okay cool. If I really want to understand emotions, then what is it that would cause an electrical or chemical shift inside of my body so that I know what these emotions are coming from, right? And we're going to go through the five masks of emotion and I'm going to give you a hint here, a really big hint. And that is…hmm… only one of them is a true emotion, right? All the rest of them, they feel a lot very, very similar and they can be mistaken for emotion. And once you finally been able to separate them apart and see where it's coming from, you'll no longer beat yourself up about emotions and you'll be able to go and take action to help your body get to a state that you would call happiness, which is also just another chemical and electrical and kinetic body shape and space and state. [10:11.9]

Okay, so the first one, all of the five masks of emotion, the things that make us think, they're almost, they show up and we're like, Oh my gosh, emotion, right? The first mask is called hormonal changes and shifts inside the system, right? If you have your body's chemistry, then you're going to have, if that chemistry changes, then you're going to have a change in the feeling in your body. There's no way around it. That's what's going to happen. Now, one of those things is hormonal changes. Now these are things that you know, it is entirely possible to have some influence over how your hormones are shifting and moving around. Diet is one way to to control that a little bit. Keeping your body on a good level, exercise, things like that can help to balance hormone levels for sure, and so we may not have 100% control of that, at least as a population, right? [11:02.8]

Right now maybe that is a possibility for humanity and we just haven't really figured it out as a, as an entire population, but one is going to be hormonal changes. Particularly this is going to show up in puberty, so if you're not going through puberty right now or if you're going backwards through puberty, this is going to be good to know. Okay, but puberty is one hormonal changes inside of a person, especially what is the body's trying to figure out and how to balance all those things. Have you noticed that teenagers have a lot of mood swings, that they're all of a sudden tired and crabby or hangry or all any number of other things and they're just moody one day or sassy and other day, but then they're the sweetest thing the next day. Hormonal changes inside the system. Now, my hunch is that this doesn't just happen in teenage years because kids seem to go through phases. [11:51.0]

We have six kids and as they've grown up, Oh man, ours aren't that. We didn't have terrible twos. Two, two year old was great, but it was like threes. Those were the rough ones for most of our kids. And at certain ages, like at age eight and nine like they start testing a certain level of like other types of stuff going on. And my hunch is there's probably a little bit of chemical changes going on in their system as their body's growing. I mean obviously the pituitary gland is releasing kinds of stuff to stimulate growth and those human growth hormone, all these other things that are going on inside the system. And so growth spurts would indicate an increase in chemical shifts inside the system and people experience it as pain and whatnot else. But a person going through puberty, puberty experiences, emotional ups and downs. [12:37.9]

So also with that, the menses or a monthly period for women, that time of the month, the hormones shift a little bit. And if you notice your emotions are, they shift some along with it. It's not necessarily in your control, but it's a good thing to note, Oh, it's this time. And most women that I've met are pretty aware of this and maybe that's not common, but most of the ones I've met are pretty aware of this. They know when that's coming and they know how they feel at that period of time. And so they, they're not necessarily beating themselves up over being angry a bunch. They're just like, okay, I've been angry for two days. Yeah, but it's this, I know it's this. And so then the question becomes, what can I do to help mitigate that? Again, I'm not an expert in hormones and endocrinology and things like that and so I don't have any prescriptions for what to do to balance your hormonal state except for some of the things I might, I'll talk about in a little bit, Okay [13:33.1]

If you or someone you know is looking to drop the F-bomb of “Freedom” in their life, whether that's from past trauma, depression, anxiety, addiction, or any other host of emotional and personal struggles, but they just don't know how or wants some help doing it. Head on over to thefreedomspecialist.com/feelbetternow and check out some of the things we've got in store for you or book a call so we can look at your unique situation and get you the help that you're looking for. [14:01.7]

Third piece of this is pregnancy. Now if you're a guy listening to this, I hope you don't have to deal with this or amongst the gear and I don't mean to turn that into a joke, but you're off the hook here. That also means you can't blame it on that. Okay? If you're out of puberty and you're not a woman, then you can't blame it on that. If you're a girl, I'm looking through this. That would be a good question to ask yourself is this is like what time am I at in, in my monthly cycle? Because if I'm close to it and I can recognize that, that it might be easier to handle some of the emotional stuff cause you will know where it's coming from. And it's not that there's something wrong with the world, you just understand that, that there's been a chemical shift inside your system. [14:44.8]

So mask number one, mask number one is hormonal changes inside the system. Mask number two as we move into mask number two, and this will be the last one that we covered for this week, but mask number two will be we're going to talk about anything that you ingest. So substances, when you add a chemical to the body, which what is food? But instead of chemicals, if you break them, really, if you really break them down or subatomic particles, I guess if you're a particle physicist or something like that. But chem chemicals when you break them down, food is that, and that's important to understand anything that you're ingesting those. So we want to talk about yes drugs. So if you're doing recreational drugs, that'll change your state of consciousness. It also changes how you feel. And how you're wired even to the level of caffeine. [15:35.5]

Michael Paulin wrote a book on caffeine. I listened to it on audible not too long ago. It was a fascinating dive into the history of caffeine and how just that one little element, which is essentially an insecticide inside of a plant that's meant to keep other bugs from eating it too often but not in a lethal dose, so it really just kind of discombobulates them and makes them wired in a different way. So just that one little element changed the course of human history and altered his, like he did some experimentation with hes been drinking coffee and tea his whole life he took, we went three months off and then came back on and described it more like a trick or a trip or a drug trip that he like was really identifying as that and had to redefine his definition with caffeine. The minute hand on the clock did not exist before caffeine and coffee houses had really start to sprung up all over Europe [16:26.4]

Before then, the angle of the sun was really the main thing we needed to worry about. After then, now we had hijacked human biology in such a way that we could have a late shift or a night shift or a graveyard shift and we can get ourselves up and get ourselves moving through caffeine. Now, no judgments about whether or not you drink caffeine or don't drink caffeine. That's totally your choice, but that ingestion of that one chemical, which is essentially a little bit of an herbicide and a bit of an insecticide, alters human consciousness and changes how you feel. Have you noticed how antsy you are or to go get things done? Some people get really ancy. Other people get super hyper. Other people get mad just because of caffeine and when you don't have it, that alters it as well because when it's not produced by the human body, when you have to ingest it from the outside, it inherently isn't quite a perfect match and that does some things to the human biology and you end up crashing afterwards and develop a dependency on it that's going to change your emotional state. [17:28.7]

An example of this is also marijuana. Scientists couldn't figure out why marijuana, like why we had; why human beings from birth had receptor cells for cannabis. They couldn't figure it out. Like why, why, why are we, why do we have these things? Cause it's not like it's a food. And as they look around they did, they discover that the human body creates this thing that they decided to call Anandamide, which is Ananda is the Sanskrit word for bliss or just ecstasy. This incredible feeling of wellbeing and that's created by the human body. And because it's created by the human body, it can be 100% fully absorbed. But cannabis produces something that's similar to it but maybe not a perfect match. And so it's not, the body can't absorb it all, can't absorb it as well and creates a certain kind of dependency. And there's a little bit of a come down afterwards or a little bit of a crash. [18:18.8]

I am not a marijuana user, so I don't know the full experience from the inside. So, but there is a little bit of a come down afterwards and a little bit of a crash and some dependency to be able to use that in order to just clear your head and to calm down and to chill out. Because you're not creating it on the inside, there's some stuff that happens and you have, you noticed that if you've used those, the emotions get messed up and moved around a little bit when you're on it and when you're off it. And I feel so peaceful and then I don't, it's a change in chemistry. So now we've moved from drugs, things that you ingest, we can now talk about vaccines and injections and prescriptions. These also are drugs. The word drug itself is a funny word because you go to the drug store to pick up a medicine, but if you go buy drugs somewhere else, then that's a drug, right? [19:04.4]

It's the US food and drug administration, it's called it. Somebody arbitrarily decided one thing as a drug and one thing is not, and they have their criteria for it. And I'm not here to argue about whether or not it's good or bad, but it's an interesting distinction that if you really look down at it, the only reason, one thing is called a drug, and another thing isn't, is because of a certain way of looking at it. And different cultures have different views on different plants and medicines and all kinds of other stuff, which is why shamans use these psychotropic substances, which caffeine is kind of one of them, but, but science shamans use these things to help people in a medicinal way and in a spiritual way. But in our culture, no, those are seen as taboo and bad and spirituality doesn't involve those different cultures, different viewpoint. [19:49.0]

What's a drug? What's not a drug? When you inject these into your system medicines and vaccines and whatnot and everything that's in there, and I'm not going to tell you this isn't the place to debate whether vaccination is good for your kids or not, but know this, if there's mercury in the vaccine, well that's a chemical that's going into your body. And if you're going to change your chemistry, it's going to change your emotional state. Our kids, when they got their vaccines, they were kind of like angry and uptight for a couple of days and then they were sore and they were sick too. Like their emotions shifted, their physical health shifted and all kinds of other things shifted when they were when we were younger. And please don't get on my case about whether it was good or bad to try to vaccinate my kids or not. [20:27.0]

Look, I knew what I knew at the time. I know what I know now is different than what I knew then. Just like you, you know, you learned it once. You didn't know it when you were born. At some point in time your eyes were opened and maybe there's some things your eyes haven't been opened to yet. Right? So hold off on the judgment of other people about vaccines for a second and know what you know on or what you know. But let's look at it from this angle. Vaccines, ingesting pills or other types of drugs or anything else that we're putting into our system is going to change your chemistry. That's going to change your emotions. This is also true with food. It's also true with air, right? Carbon monoxide, if you're breathing that in, it affects your system and can kill a person. [21:05.7]

The smoke, if there's a lot of smoke in the air, it affects you in a big way. How much fresh air there is, how much not fresh air there is. During the Spanish flu back in the day, so they found some great success both with sunlight. By the way, that's something that's taken in from the outside that does affect chemistry. I mean you body produces vitamin D as a result of direct contact with the sun. So direct sunlight is one thing and air and they figured out that they were getting much better, much better results with these hospitals that had big windows where they could let in lots of light and they had cross ventilated hospital, big rooms, and so everybody was getting fresh air. Everybody was getting plenty of sunlight and that does help with your immune system. It helps your body function better because the chemistry's in a different place. [21:48.6]

Okay, so the second mask that we're dealing with is anything taken in from the outside? This is important to you because sometimes you can be down in dark and feel pretty dark and heavy in your life. Partly because, have you noticed that you, when you walk into a room, the air is kind of heavy or it feels like things have been sitting for a while and you need to break that up, break up that energy, let a little light in, let some fresh air in and suddenly the air feels better. Or when you clean up your room, like you've dusted things off or you've gotten rid of clutter and done the whole Marie Kondo life changing magic of tidying up thing, which I highly recommend to anybody on the planet. It is amazing. And you know, maybe I can go deeper into that sometime, but absolutely incredible practice. [22:33.7]

Have you noticed that as you change your environment and you're taking in different air and different stuff that you feel differently, have you noticed that when you breathe better and we teach our clients some breathing practices, a couple of different ones to enable them to be able to change quickly, their pH. Just breath in a certain way enables you to shift the pH in your body within just a few minutes. It's the fastest way to shift your blood pH that there is besides thought, which is really big and we'll talk about that next time. Breathing is like one of the fastest ways to change it. But then have you noticed that going outside for a walk suddenly helps you make, helps you feel better, your, your body's well this is a different one, so we'll talk about that next time as well. But there's all kinds of things that you can do. [23:17.1]

Have you noticed that when you're eating really greasy, grimy food or you're being away from home or eating out a lot, that you just have a general feeling of more and it's not just like your tummies down, but you also are low on energy and you feel that way as well. Right? Your emotions are off because of what you've been ingesting and what your body's had to make itself out of. If you've given it really cruddy ingredients, it'll still make a body, but it might not be the most optimally functioning body. Okay, so the second mask is, and I don't always put these in the same order, so there are five of them. The first one is hormonal changes. The second one is anything you're taking into your body from the outside, whether that's food, whether that's medicine, whether that's drugs, whether that's sunlight, whether that's air or anything else that you're taking in, including human touch and physical contact with things changes your chemistry. [24:07.3]

Now to understand that, and that means like how am I feeling right now? And you might have the capacity to go like, Hmm; I haven't really been in contact with people for a while. Maybe I need to go do that. Or you know what, this, this, I haven't really been eating well let me ask how I've been eating. And then we look, am I getting enough water? Have I been hydrated enough? How's the air around? And you might find that your emotional state doesn't have to do with some deep root issue and has everything to do with, Oh my gosh, you know what? You know my nutrition has been off and I really haven't been doing all the things that I want to do like that could be more beneficial for my body. You don't have to go haywire. But just changing one little thing like getting enough water in the day. You'd be surprised how much that starts to shift things inside your system. So next time we'll go further and we'll discuss the other three masks of emotion. [24:58.3]

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