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In this episode, you’ll learn…

  • The single most important thing you can do today to protect yourself from failure (2:04)
  • How to stop yourself from withering away into a meaningless existence (5:19)
  • The trick for exterminating burnout before it can creep in (6:39)
  • The cold, hard truth about why your employees and children haven’t bought into you (10:58)
  • The “5 P’s” that instantly help you reach your full potential (13:58)

Are you crushing it at work but struggling at home? If you want to learn how to win at home, then go to https://CoryMCarlson.com and download your free copy of “10 Ways To Win At Home.”

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Welcome to the win at home first podcast. I'm your host, Corey Carlson. This podcast is where we talk about how successful business leaders win, not only at work, but also at home. On this podcast, we will go behind the scenes with great leaders to hear stories of how they win. Thank you for listening and on to today's episode.

(00:24): Hello, my name is Cory Carlson. You are listening to the win at home first podcast. This is episode number four. Are you wandering from day to day? In order to know where we're going in life, we've got to have a destination. We have to have something greater than ourselves. Something beyond the other day, my daughter was going to a birthday party at one of those new trampoline parks and I had not been there yet, so I had to get on my iPhone and actually type in the destination. Therefore, my phone would get me to that point and if we don't do that in our own lives, there is going to just be this sense of wandering. But instead, if we know where we're going, R Y is bigger than just the what of the day to day. And that is significant. I mean, before you can inspire others with the vision, you have to be inspired yourself.

(01:22): You have to have enough vision that catches the fire, the enthusiasm in those you lead. But it's gotta start with yourself. And what we find is many leaders don't have a personal vision. They may work for one for their company. They may think about doing one, but at the end of the day they have not created a personal vision statement for themselves and great leaders. They know what they want. So on today's podcast, this is not about creating a company vision that is very, very important. We will talk about in future episodes, some of the framework we'll talk about on today's podcast can help putting together a company vision. But today is about you. It is about a personal vision, creating one for yourself. I know for me my leadership at home at work significantly changed when I develop my own personal vision statement using the same framework we'll share with you today.

(02:23): So I'm excited about this episode because we will unpack some of the reasons you need to do it and then the framework in fact to do it. So the three areas of why you need one is if you don't have a vision statement, number one, you will perish. Number two, you wonder is this it? And last, the third reason is you don't have followers. And so we will work [inaudible] explain each of those and then provide the framework that we use, the framework that we use. We call the five PS. I'll go [inaudible] into that more in depth at the end, but it create eight my own vision statement, which is connecting people do greater performance and more significant purpose. That has helped me make decisions on what to do, what to pursue. It's also helped me to say no to certain things I have heard many times before.

(03:16): If you say yes to something, you're saying no to other activities. And that has been true in my life since I've put together a vision statement. No. Does it help me connect with other people? This particular activity, does it help me provide others get to a greater performance now that greater performance may be at work and helping them Institute KPIs, key performance indicators, it may help them get greater performance at home, physical fitness, their finances, whatever. That greater performance is that my friend or my client or or you need help with. I want to provide you the tools and the guidance to help get you that greater performance and for the more significant purpose for me in my own life that has been growing and getting more connected and having a daily relationship with Jesus and for a lot of my clients or friends in, in family, it is in fact to help them get closer to Jesus.

(04:12): But also I've had some incredible cool stories about people who are atheists who didn't believe in Jesus, but I helped him see and get to a greater purpose of their day to day work. And so for them it was helping them think about others, less narcissistic, more on helping others achieve their goals, and when they started to be more selfless, which was a greater purpose of helping the team. And we saw some serious growth. So for me, just my own vision statement has helped me go forward and has brought others along the way. All right. The first idea for today that I want to talk about is without a vision statement, you will perish. And so for Proverbs 29 18 there's a verse that says, where there is no vision, the people perish. Now I know when I've always heard that that sounds so extreme, like the people are just going to die, there's going to wither away.

(05:07): And it was always kind of hard to relate to instill actually learned what the word parish meant instead of this graphic melting that I thought it was. You actually find that Harish means to wither away into a meaningless existence marked only by the Dole of everyday routine. So this individual in this book checklist for life gave the definition of it. [inaudible] When I hear that definition, man, that is so true and actually it's a reality and it's a reality that I know I have faced before where if I don't have a vision, I start to perish. I start to just become part of the every day routine. I get up, I get ready for work, I go to work, go about my day. It's about hitting sales numbers, hitting them, getting the projects done, hitting the reports. It's come home is take kids to activities and you're just very robotic and there's not a lot of emotion, not a lot of fuel throughout the day. [inaudible]

(06:10): What happens with this is you become a leader, very transactional and not relational. You are about getting the results you need as opposed to investing in building into people if you're in the sales role than it is about closing deals and that is all that matters. If you're in the construction space, it's just about getting the projects done. Whatever field you're in. It is just about getting the deal done. The project is done to completion, so you become about just numbers and just the results you lead to burnout, which leads [inaudible]. Just wanting the weekend to come. Few years ago I was traveling every week, Monday through Friday, going to different parts of the country and I'd come back and on the weekend I'd want to be super dad and super husband and then during the week I was trying to be super employee, but what I noticed is my, my cup started to run dry because I was getting just in a routine, pack my suitcase, go travel, stay in the hotel, pack the suitcase, come back, do these different things or with the family throughout the weekend.

(07:18): It just got very routine and it was reaching burnout. I felt like I had less to give to those that I lead and it was in that moment that I started to see the need for a vision statements, something to find redeeming qualities of my day, something to help me through when the times are tough, maybe the quarter is not going as well as I want it to or a project is getting delayed and not going as well. So it helps putting together the vision statement to actually change the way I thought instead of just traveling to spend time with somebody to help them, it was instead to invest in them. It was to have them, you have a greater performance both at home, both at work. So I started to see a change in how I was traveling, spending time with people. The second point I want to talk about today that I hear from leaders often is they wonder is this it?

(08:13): Almost like is this all that I was put on this earth for? Is this job? And if we don't have a vision that in fact can [inaudible] often what we think we just view our life is our day to day as opposed to maybe something greater of what it could be. You may have an incredible job. You may get paid very, very well. Did you wonder is, is this all God has for me? I've got a very good friend who also was a client and we went through this five P exercise. His name's Ray, he's a periodontist. He does very well. But while we're going through the coaching and talking and working through his framework, he wondered just in fact, is this it? And I've heard this from numerous people. So it was, it's fun to always get to walk through and kind of pull the veil back and help them uncover their vision, their purpose.

(09:03): So as we were going through these five different pieces, we'll get to, he kept saying, I hear the phrase, pour yourself out. And so as we talked, that became his vision statement, that that is the one that he wanted to. So now every time he looked at something, he thought, Hey, how can I pour myself out? So now as he's working with a patient, he's sitting next to them. It's, Hey, how can I pour myself out? How can I give my best professionally as well as personally to them? [inaudible] Ties to our local church and involved in other nonprofits. But instead of it just feeling like a passing of the money, it became more, Hey, how can I pour myself out? How can I give generously? And so it became a mindset shift of how he was giving and serving others. When he spent time with his family, it was about how can I pour myself out in a way to invest in them, to love them, to serve them.

(09:59): So he didn't change his job. He's still a period on, he's still a father, he's still a husband. But instead the mindset shifted in a way that pour yourself out became how you look at everything. So somewhere in my own experience, I still was president of sales for a company. When I shifted my vision significantly, my job still changed. I still was president of sales, but how I went about it was [inaudible] different. And so that's my encouragement to you. As you think about putting together a vision for yourself, it will not necessarily change your job, it changes the way you go after your job and the Y. So before we dive into number three, if this has been helpful to you and you want to tending to learn, continuing to get more involved in how to win at home and at work, I encourage you, visit my website@coreymcarlson.com and download 10 ways to win at home.

(10:53): And now for the last comment before we dive into the five pieces that you don't have followers. Yes, you may have employees that work for you. You may have kids that are in your family, but you don't have followers. People that have bought into the vision that you're going after. People don't want to follow somebody who doesn't know where they're going. We need a vision that is contagious. I know for myself, the people that I'm drawn to, the people that I like to follow, learn from is I can tell they've got a vision bigger than themselves. They are going after something and it's not just about the money that they are going after. Something that is bigger than who they are and I want to follow them now may not be, I want to follow them in all areas of their life, ABI, like someone's the way they go after spirituality.

(11:43): I want to learn from them, their mentor in that space. Someone else. I'm learning how they are building their business and I'm following them and watching them because of how go after it. And so for each of us, if we want to build a tribe, if we want to have followers, whether they're family members or employees, then we've got to have that vision that is contagious and worth going after. So the three reasons that we've talked about why you have to have a vision is one. If you don't, if you do not have a vision, you will perish. If you don't have a vision, you will often wonder is this it? And the last, if you don't have a vision, you will not have followers. And so this framework we call is, it's the five PS that it helps you put together a vision statement and we want this vision statement to be 10 words or less.

(12:37): As we go through these five PS and you write down the different words that you're thinking of fall into these buckets. It's just a brain dump. Just list them out. You will not be using all those words to construct. Your vision statement is just a brainstorming process just to get the juices flowing. Everyone I've done this through. This has led to a vision statement. This vision statement is not the one you have to have for the rest of your life. You may tweak it here and there. I've actually been using my same one for what? About five years, maybe six years now. I don't, I, I pray about things if I need to change it and I don't feel the need to change it because everything still gets me excited. What's great about a vision is it needs to bring out a passion inside you, but also put a little fear in you and for me, I've kept this vision statement because it brings out passion.

(13:30): I love all of these different words throughout there, right? Connecting with people, greater performance, significant purpose. I love the idea of each of those, but there is a fear. Will I be able to help someone grow their business? Will I be able to actually instill rhythms and habits and mindset shifts that they feel they are connecting with their greater purpose? There's a fear there. So that is what keeps me going. [inaudible] Very exciting. So these five fees, the first P is problems. What problems have you overcome that you want to help others overcome? Isn't it an addiction? You learn poor business habits, you overcome them and now you want to help other people be successful in business. For me, I've shared before in previous episodes about having an affair. Aye don't want other people to ever have an affair. I don't want other people to be losing at home.

(14:27): And so that is why I'm so focused on helping people win at home and at work and providing the tools to do both. So that's a problem I've overcome that I want to help other people. Number two, his personality, how has God uniquely and wonderfully made you? And that is how you can develop and your vision for others. Are you an extrovert? Are you an introvert? Do you like to help people? I use the word connect. I enjoy connecting with other people. So that was a word that meant something to me as I did this exercise. So in a personality, how are you uniquely made versus others? A friend, mentor of mine, Ron Bashir, it was a very successful businessman. You're in the Cincinnati area and he [inaudible] invited me to a lunch appointment at 1230 this particular day when I get there, there's already someone sitting in the booth and so I just kind of waved.

(15:30): I'm here, I'll, I'll be over there in just a minute. But he flagged me over and had me sit and he went on to explain that he overlapped the meetings on purpose. So us two can meet. His personality is one of connection, one of getting other people to no each other. Help them. If me and this individual started doing work together, you wouldn't benefit from it other than the fact that he loves connecting to other people. Number three is passions. What do you like to do? What makes you come alive? When I hired my writing coach, Chad Allen for my book, [inaudible] her home first. When the referral was made, they had made the comment, you know, reach out to Chad. He's a great writing coach. He'll love helping you and I remember hearing that thinking that, you know, that's, that's nice. I mean, I hope he wants to help me.

(16:22): Well, when I had my consultation call with him, man, his passion for helping me, helping other writers get their idea out in the world was enormous. The way he asked questions and what would happen if this book was not written. Tell me about your family. Tell me, what do you like to do? Why do you want to write this book? He just kept asking me questions. It wasn't just about getting me to sign on the dotted line to pay him to be my coach, but instead he wanted to know more about me, more about the book to see if we were a right fit before we proceed. His personal vision statement is to help creative people get their message out into the world. I believe he does that because he is so passionate about helping people and pulling out the words, the ideas of authors of other creative people to get it out there.

(17:13): Last possessions. What has God given you financially, your time, talent, treasures, your knowledge. What are the things that you have been given that you can go and bless others with? I talked about Ray, the periodontist. This possessions was a big piece of those five PS that helped him cause he has been blessed he wants to give it away. It's for yourself. Houses. Possessions was a big one for him. Maybe it will be for you as well and the last he is potential. Do you see potential in people or something more so than others do and that's an opportunity for you. I'm on the board of directors for a nonprofit called Aroona where we provide sustainable employment to women freed from sex trafficking in Mumbai, India. It was all started by the executive director named Ryan Berg and Ryan in his previous job saw the bottom of a T V one day, probably about 10 years ago now, the CNN ticker going across the bottom.

(18:17): That gave a stat of how many women were enslaved in India. That number rocked his world. [inaudible] Stopped him in his tracks. For many of us, I know me just being honest, if I saw that ticker, heck, I may even saw it, but I just like, Oh, that's a bummer, that's too bad and kind of moved on about my day, but not Ryan. Brian saw that number and thought, I have to do something about it. There is no way that that number can be right. There's no way that number should be that high. I have to look into it and do some of it and he did because of the potential that he saw in solving that overall problem, bringing hope to women. Launched Aroona and now it is a functioning organization that makes bags and we employ, I think at the time of this recording, there's probably 50 women that are employed over in Mumbai.

(19:14): And so it's incredible an all star because he saw the potential of something and that became his vision for what he went after. So these five PS problems, personality, passions, possessions and potential, I encourage you to just do a brain dump on all five P's, putting words down on paper. And then from there trying to construct the sentence that makes you come alive sends it, gets you excited, sends that, puts you a little fear in your mind, 10 words or less to go after. So once you put together that vision statement, it's this idea. Now you know where you want to go. As we talked about the very beginning of the podcast, I had to put in the directions daughter's gymnastics or a trampoline park before we went there. This is your destination, this is how you want it.

(20:02): Just start to live and how you want to go. In the next episode, we will be talking about the priorities that you need to put in place in order to reach your potential. Until next time, keep winning at home. Thank you. You're unstoppable at work at home. It's another story. Sounds like you. Good news. I'm here to help. If you're ready to win at home, then go to Corey M carlson.com and download your free copy of 10 ways to win.

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